Very upsetting to read I hope the childcare do something about that carer.
We had an incident with my son a couple of years ago in the childcare and they ended up firing the carer over it. She was the room leader too!
If you feel uncomfortable about their practices, I would definitely speak to the director. If things need to change or be clarified for you to be comfortable sending your daughter there, then it's important for you to speak to them.
That’s a bit upsetting to read. My best friends toddler is in the same centre as mine and if I was in the same situation I probably would have picked him up and def would have told my friend.
Just a quick update: when I got there this morning my friend was there speaking to the room leader about what I'd told her and how unhappy she was with what had happened. She motioned me over and I recounted the events to the room leader who was quite frankly horrified. She explained that that is definitely not how any behaviour should have been dealt with. She assured us that the moment the director gets in she'll be going to see her about it. The carer in question won't be in our children's room until the whole matter is sorted either. The room leader also asked us to put everything that happened in writing and send it to her and the director asap, which I've done now. I'm feeling a bit better because I feel they're taking it all seriously and that it is a case of a poorly trained carer who is new to the centre.
Thanks for all your support! I needed to hear that I wasn't overreacting to give me the confidence to act.
Last edited by BettyV; 09-03-2016 at 11:34.
Great they are taking it seriously, I don't think you were over reacting at all.
Haven't read other replies. Your friend would have been told and an incident report would've been done. I assume that time out is used in some centres, but even so I think 2 minutes should've been enough (isn't time out usually a minute per years of age?).
The carers of course can't smack kids, and sometimes just telling them off isn't enough, so a consequence to his actions may have been necessary. I'm probably in the minority in thinking like this but I personally didn't feel bothered by the description of what the OP saw, except that 5 minutes was probably a bit too long. My DD got bitten at daycare once and I hope the kid who did it knew what he/she had done and that it was wrong. My DD has clear tooth imprints on her arm! Not happy!
When I picked dd up this afternoon the centre manager came and talked to me, she apologised profusely for the incident, explained that she has met with the carer and had a long conversation. The carer has been asked to reread the centre's behaviour policy. The manager will then be meeting with her again so the carer can demonstrate to her that she now knows how to deal with these situations effectively. On top of this the other carers that were in the room have had a meeting with the room leader to go over what they should have done to intervene and they all role played how they'll deal with these things if they were ever to occur again. As an extra measure the carer involved in the incident will be limited to the preschool room, where the children are older, for the next month while they put more training in place.
I'm really pleased with how they've responded and kept both my friend and myself informed today. It's helped me regain the confidence I lost in the centre.
OP, I'm so glad to hear that they responded they way they did. It would give you the reassurance that you were not overreacting and that your concerns were valid. But most importantly, it seems they do not accept that kind of treatment of a child.
I would be absolutely horrified if I found out my son was allowed to cry for 5 minutes without any comfort as a punishment.
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