+ Reply to Thread
Page 6 of 7 FirstFirst ... 4567 LastLast
Results 51 to 60 of 66
  1. #51
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,283
    Thanks
    676
    Thanked
    661
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    We bring wine. That way they can choose to use it at the event or keep it as a thank you.

    When I say this though I mean it. We have a coeliac in the household and I usually make events gluten free so nothing gets contaminated.

    One pet hate though is when I ask people not to bring anything and they bring something (usually with gluten in it) that requires the oven. I'm usually using the oven if I have people over and facilitating this is a hassle.

  2. #52
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    976
    Thanks
    223
    Thanked
    485
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.

  3. #53
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    4,213
    Thanks
    3,646
    Thanked
    3,457
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week

    Default What to bring when you're told not to bring a thing

    I can't believe how many people take something to a play date! 😧

    Proper lunch or dinner invite, yes take wine/flowers/chocolate. A play date??? Nothing. If somebody comes over I just makes some tea or coffee and offer the mom cookies or something, they usually have their own snack for their child. Likewise when I go over to somebody's house. It's meant to be casual and an opportunity to give each other a bit of a break (cleaning house, chasing rogue toddler in the park, etc), why add stress with expectations like this? To me the 'thank you' is reciprocating the favor/play date. Genuinely never occurred to me to take anything and nobody has ever brought anything to me.

  4. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to HollyGolightly81 For This Useful Post:

    FearlessLeader  (09-03-2016),MissMuppet  (09-03-2016),NancyBlackett  (09-03-2016)

  5. #54
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    6,872
    Thanks
    5,195
    Thanked
    3,896
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea

  6. #55
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    10,315
    Thanks
    3,126
    Thanked
    6,319
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea
    See you about 10am!!!

    I've been on 4 new play dates since DS started kindy and I have always just bought fruit - until I get to know them I then work out if and what to take or not - 1 mum had a complete afternoon tea buffet set up , another had nothing as she has 4 kids and ran out of time to make something so the fruit was very welcome - personally I always have tons of food and don't like it when people bring things over but I do find it hard not to take something to someone's house ! ( especially if we've just met)

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to Elijahs Mum For This Useful Post:

    Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (09-03-2016)

  8. #56
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    2,069
    Thanks
    1,934
    Thanked
    1,500
    Reviews
    12
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I always take something over whether it be playdate, lunch or whatever. Depends on how well I know them it's usually scones or Anzac biscuits for new friends. I will cook fancier stuff for good mates/family.

    I've got tomato and feta tartlets ready for tomorrow's morning tea
    Omg! That sounds delicious. I'm in Canberra... Where exactly will these tartlets be? 😜

    Back to the op I'd probably take some biscuits. In general I take something if it's a new friend but if a close friend says "don't bring a thing" then I embrace the chance to be lazy and expect them to do the same when they come to my place.

  9. #57
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    6,872
    Thanks
    5,195
    Thanked
    3,896
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BettyV View Post
    Omg! That sounds delicious. I'm in Canberra... Where exactly will these tartlets be? 😜

    Back to the op I'd probably take some biscuits. In general I take something if it's a new friend but if a close friend says "don't bring a thing" then I embrace the chance to be lazy and expect them to do the same when they come to my place.
    Gungahlin!

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to Rose&Aurelia&Hannah For This Useful Post:

    BettyV  (09-03-2016)

  11. #58
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    2,069
    Thanks
    1,934
    Thanked
    1,500
    Reviews
    12
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Gungahlin!
    Lol! Funnily enough that's exactly where I'll be too. I promise I'm not stalking you for your tartlets.

    Sorry for derailing op. I'll stop now. 😊

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to BettyV For This Useful Post:

    Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (09-03-2016)

  13. #59
    Join Date
    Feb 2016
    Posts
    1,153
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked
    707
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by siansmum View Post
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.
    I'm the opposite, if I am inviting people over and say to bring nothing, I completely expect nothing. Flowers would make me feel extremely uncomfortable to be honest.

  14. #60
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    in a wormhole
    Posts
    2,769
    Thanks
    4,600
    Thanked
    2,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by siansmum View Post
    Whenever we invite guests for lunch or dinner (or a play date), and they ask what to bring, I always say, "nothing thanks, I've got the food organised." I love entertaining and prefer to do the food myself, but I would hope that they would bring some flowers as a 'thank you' gesture.
    We had two kinder families for lunch on Sunday and neither of them came with flowers or drink. I thought that was pretty poor form.
    If I'm told not to bring anything, I assume that just means not to worry about bringing food, but I ALWAYS take flowers - ALWAYS.
    Poor form? But you told them to bring nothing! People aren't mind readers.

    This thread perfectly illustrates how people have different ideas about etiquette - what some consider polite, others consider rude. So I try to give the benefit of the doubt. Whatever my friends bring (or don't bring) is just fine - they're almost certainly doing what they think is best.

  15. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to MissMuppet For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (10-03-2016),babyno1onboard  (09-03-2016),Best Things  (09-03-2016),FearlessLeader  (09-03-2016),just her chameleon  (09-03-2016),Lillynix  (10-03-2016),MrsMummaButterfly  (09-03-2016),~Marigold~  (09-03-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Should I bring it up with cc?
    By harvs in forum General Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 30-07-2015, 20:23
  2. Food that you just cannot bring yourself to eat... what is it?
    By GlitterFarts in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 114
    Last Post: 18-03-2015, 19:36

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Pyjamas.com.au
With so many gorgeous brands and styles for every season, our pyjamas, nighties, robes, sleepsuits and sleeping bags are lovely for lights out and perfect for lazy days. Get 10% off first order using code bubhub. Be quick offer ends 31/12/16.
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
SRC Pregnancy & Recovery Shorts
Want pain relief during pregnancy, and to continue working and exercising? Fancy a speedy recovery after childbirth? Want to regain your pre-baby body shape fast? Recommended by healthcare professionals, SRC compression products will let your body do its most important work.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!