In relation to paying for dinner and perceived double standards - and this is just my personal stance I don't know how others feel. Sometimes equality in a relationship doesn't need to be tit for tat absolutely everything down the middle. I make DH coffee every morning without fail, he rarely makes me one. That one action alone (or absence of action) doesn't make him misogynist or me down trodden. Bc he mows the lawn, even though I can do it and have done it, he doesn't want stones to hit me. He buys me flowers, I very rarely buy him any but I regularly cook him romantic dinners. We have a very equal, respectful relationship.
I'm not sure if I've made any sense in that but I know what I mean