I would be a bit bummed at the exclusion. I would assume the wife wasn't that into me and my husband (even if that's not the case, I would still make that conclusion).
I would not let this sour the friendship with the other friends in the social circle, however I would be a bit put off this couple after this little instance.
I would never ask why I wasn't invited though. I'm a pretty proud person and wouldn't want them to know it bothered me.
It's a bit disappointing but I wonder if it's to do with the number and "mix" of friends rather than you personally? We have several groups of different friends from different locations and backgrounds, mostly due to both DH and I having moved around a lot over the years and also both of us having big career changes at different points in our lives. This has resulted in a pretty big, diverse group of mates. We tend to often have the dilemma of whom to invite to significant events such as birthdays as it can be a case of "if we invite xyz friends, then we also have to invite these other ones too". Also for us it's about the mix, who would get along, and who has kids, or lives close by, etc.
I'd be disappointed over stuff like this. If you're in the same circle of friends and you're the only one excluded that sux.
In the past when things like this have happened to me (my bff's 'forgot' to invite me to a concert), I'd let it get to me.
Now, I just do something even more fabulous. Then they end up asking 'oh how come u never told me about it?? What was it like??' Etc etc, and that's my payback. Ive even had them then try to copy my fabulous day and that's my greatest satisfaction! What's that saying...?.. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery...
Anyways OP, don't let it bother you, find something you and your DH love and do it together!xx
Thanks everyone for your kind replies.
I definitely won't stop being in the group as its just one couple and I know the other people who got invited are our true friends. I guess you live and learn. I have a lot of friends all over the world and I called my college friend from the UK today and had such a lovely chat that the furrow in my brow completely went and I felt right again. It's good to focus on who does care over who doesn't.
I agree tho with Facebook. I came off it prior to starting IVF as it was all too painful and only came back on again for the long 3am feeds. Well, now DD is 8mths long her feeds are 5 mins and Facebook is taking up valuable time with her so I've come off again. Feel instantly better.
Really appreciate all the support ladies. 😘
Little Miss Sunshine (07-03-2016)
I have this happen to me all the time. Even at work when I "accidentally" walked into the dish room at the wrong time and the other girls there were organising dinner and a movie. I quickly got invited but declined 😕. I find now I don't have a circle of friends so to speak and just go out with hubby and the kids. I got over the rejection
Sorry op to derail just some of these posts made me really sad.
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