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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    You've mentioned you're not close with her. And I assume your husband isn't either.

    Maybe she just wanted people she was close with around for her birthday? Sometimes I get an urge to spend time around an old group of school friends and not the current main group of friends hubby and I hang with (basically hubby's friends and their wives - we all get along great). It's got nothing to do with liking it not liking someone.
    Yep this. It sounds like you only see her in social settings and you aren't actually friends with her. I know you feel hurt but try not to take is personally. I think you might be reading too much into it. I'm sure she likes you just fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Love love love the fact you sent a message and asked. That's the kind of grown up I want to be
    Haha!! Doesn't get you anywhere tho! All I got was some passive response and now it will be awkward when I next see them!

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    I'm sorry you feel hurt And left out Op.
    If this ever happens again, I wouldn't ask them about it. The sad reality is people can choose to invite whoever they choose to their events and choose not to invite whoever they like. In this instance, they chose not to invite you.
    What I'd do with that information is to use it to consider how close I'd like to be with this couple in future.
    Do I want to spend more time with them? Do I want to spend more money and energy entertaining them?
    Hold your head up high, be fabulous and try not to worry about it.
    Personally I'd be pleasant to them if you encounter them with others in your social circle but not go out of my way with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    You've mentioned you're not close with her. And I assume your husband isn't either.

    Maybe she just wanted people she was close with around for her birthday? Sometimes I get an urge to spend time around an old group of school friends and not the current main group of friends hubby and I hang with (basically hubby's friends and their wives - we all get along great). It's got nothing to do with liking it not liking someone.
    Thanks. She's a actually an American expat so none were her friends really. All extensions of hubby's. A lone male single friend in the group got an invite and a couple with two kids. The lone male was my DH's groomsman and the parents are close to us too. It's a small group of friends. Definitely weird we weren't invited. It's more the self doubt on my personality I'm struggling to deal with 😞

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    Quote Originally Posted by GucciDahling View Post
    I'm sorry you feel hurt And left out Op.
    If this ever happens again, I wouldn't ask them about it. The sad reality is people can choose to invite whoever they choose to their events and choose not to invite whoever they like. In this instance, they chose not to invite you.
    What I'd do with that information is to use it to consider how close I'd like to be with this couple in future.
    Do I want to spend more time with them? Do I want to spend more money and energy entertaining them?
    Hold your head up high, be fabulous and try not to worry about it.
    Personally I'd be pleasant to them if you encounter them with others in your social circle but not go out of my way with them.
    You're totally right. I need to put my best foot forward and not give a ****. Smile politely and just keep it casual ongoing.

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    Default WWYD - excluded from 'friends' social event?

    I probably don't have anything to offer that will help but I have to pipe up and say that I'd feel the same way! When your key friends are all there and you tend to socialise in the group that would totally sting. You are obviously friendship "group" close enough to have them at your hubby's 40th. I HATE exclusion and when it's for an event that it wouldn't really matter I just don't get why anyone would do it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tootsiegirl View Post
    I probably don't have anything to offer that will help but I have to pipe up and say that I'd feel the same way! When your key friends are all there and you tend to socialise in the group that would totally sting. You are obviously friendship "group" close enough to have them at your hubby's 40th. I HATE exclusion and when it's for an event that it wouldn't really matter I just don't get why anyone would do it!
    Thank you. After being excluded as a teen I make every effort to include people. I'm very social and obviously have people I could take or leave but exclusion is rude and I don't ever do it.

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    Oh I can relate to this..... People are nice to me etc but once I mention my hubby is a lot older than me, boom....it's like I'm an alien.

    And recently I thought we had new friends but after an occasion we don't talk anymore..... Not sure if anyone recalls the topic "dress codes" it was about that occasion.

    I personally wouldn't even bother. People who want real friendships you know who they are, other people who you see occasionally are not friends, there just associates. In my opinion.

    Never doubt yourself and never put yourself 2nd best. Your number 1 in everything. At the end of the day, if your happy with yourself, then just let things roll. Everything comes out in the end.

    Hope you feel better soon.

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    Default WWYD - excluded from 'friends' social event?

    Hugs @amiracle4me. Even if it wasn't intended to hurt your feelings it still stings.

    I stay off Facebook for that very reason. Happy in my ignorant little hole, unaware of the things I'm not being invited to.

    I understand how you feel, but please don't throw away a group of friends on the basis of one missed invite xxx
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