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    Quote Originally Posted by Albert01 View Post
    Oh FFS....olive trees don't cast much shade. There are no other temporary or permanent dwellings on the property, no shade. You don't think I would have considered that?

    And, by the way, writing "all good "doesn't make it 'all good'.
    Do you think maybe @Blessedwith3boys meant they had their hats on and some shade and they were all good? Living where she does she would have to be ok with the heat or live inside most of the year!
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    Initially I thought you were being a bit unreasonable but after reading this olive grove isn't on their property (so no house) I don't think you are.

    I probably would have had my eldest spend a short time in the grove, helping pick olives, learning about them etc. Then bundled them in the car, kissed my DH and gone home. I live in a hot climate too. It frequently gets over 40 degrees here and I wouldn't have my kids out in 36 degree temps all day. That is hot for a 4yo and baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Initially I thought you were being a bit unreasonable but after reading this olive grove isn't on their property (so no house) I don't think you are.

    I probably would have had my eldest spend a short time in the grove, helping pick olives, learning about them etc. Then bundled them in the car, kissed my DH and gone home. I live in a hot climate too. It frequently gets over 40 degrees here and I wouldn't have my kids out in 36 degree temps all day. That is hot for a 4yo and baby.
    This. I would be ok with lunch and picking for an hour or so but would then leave in the car or have DH take me home/somewhere else.

    If it was 2+ hours it would be pushing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Albert01 View Post
    Oh FFS....olive trees don't cast much shade. There are no other temporary or permanent dwellings on the property, no shade. You don't think I would have considered that?

    And, by the way, writing "all good "doesn't make it 'all good'.
    We had 4 fruiting olive trees on our property in the city and they provided adequate shade and they weren't overly big.

    Seriously op loosen up a little.
    Perhaps just stay home next time if you weren't happy this time.

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    Yes, I think that it would be better for me to stay home next time.

    Not sure I could have come to that conclusion on my own.

    This is a 'forum'. It's about having a conversation, you know?

    I'm aware that I asked for opinions on whether my feelings were unreasonable. And that's what I got so thank you for your time and input.

    However, no need to suggest that I need to 'loosen up'. You don't have enough information to make that call.

    And no need to suggest that I just stay at home next time. I was after opinions on the situation as it was, not as it maybe next time. I'm not a fool, I can make those kinds of decisions quite well.

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    If you're going to put it out there and ask for opinions you're going to get them, and you probably won't like them all.

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    If you're going to put it out there and ask for opinions you're going to get them, and you probably won't like them all.
    Yep, I did acknowledge that above.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hunnybunny View Post
    If you're going to put it out there and ask for opinions you're going to get them, and you probably won't like them all.
    Yep the OP knows that. Like everything in life though there's several ways to get a message across and the polite way is usually preferable.

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    Late to the party here but I would be annoyed too.

    I would be annoyed because the exact thing I'd said I didn't want to happen was what ended up happening. I'd probably be annoyed because deep down I suspected this would end up happening which is why I had to express in the first place that I didn't want to end up doing the thing everyone ended up doing. Then I'd be annoyed in the heat and tense because it would be hard to entertain the kids. I'd also probably feel annoyed that I felt unheard/unvalued because my wishes were being ignored.

    It's not about how much shade trees provide, or how much I could go with the flow, it's about being shoved into a situation that I expressly stated (and I assume it was agreed) that I didn't want to be in.

    Yeah, sure, it's better in the long run if you can change your mindset and try and make the best of it, but sometimes we just get ****ty and that can take over. Especially in 36 degree weather in Queensland.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Late to the party here but I would be annoyed too.

    I would be annoyed because the exact thing I'd said I didn't want to happen was what ended up happening. I'd probably be annoyed because deep down I suspected this would end up happening which is why I had to express in the first place that I didn't want to end up doing the thing everyone ended up doing. Then I'd be annoyed in the heat and tense because it would be hard to entertain the kids. I'd also probably feel annoyed that I felt unheard/unvalued because my wishes were being ignored.

    It's not about how much shade trees provide, or how much I could go with the flow, it's about being shoved into a situation that I expressly stated (and I assume it was agreed) that I didn't want to be in.

    Yeah, sure, it's better in the long run if you can change your mindset and try and make the best of it, but sometimes we just get ****ty and that can take over. Especially in 36 degree weather in Queensland.
    Very well said


 

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