My best friend recently had a baby. While she was pregnant, she asked me if I'd be willing to be the god mother. For a bit of background, I'm not religious and I don't really believe in god, but I was raised catholic so I know how it all works. I respect other people's beliefs, and I would be happy to be a god parent and do all the expected things even if I don't really believe in the concept of 'god parents' per se.
So fast forward to today, she randomly tells me she's asked someone else to be the god mother. She also asked this girl's partner to be the god father. Her reasoning for not choosing me is that she didn't want to ask my husband, but that's a pretty poor excuse IMO because her older daughter's god parents are not a couple. She could have asked me and not my husband.
Anyway, I know I shouldn't be upset because it's her choice and maybe she wanted someone more religious to do it, which is fine. But when we last talked about it I got the impression she had already chosen me. And also, she's not exactly a practicing Catholic, she doesn't go to church or anything so I don't know why she's now changed her mind if that's her reasoning.
Oh and she then said "Don't worry, you'll still get them if I die." So, apparently, I'm the person she would entrust her children to if she died, but I'm not good enough to be her kid's god mother.
I'm really upset about it but I think maybe I'm just being silly