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    Default Here I am my Intro



    Location: Australia, Victoria, Richmond

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    My IVF journey

    I started this adventure approximately 2 years ago. After yearning for a child for so many years and after having a few relationships which were just not quite right to bring up a child. I want to bring a child into a loving, stable environment not an unhappy one hence my decision to wait but then I knew the 'right' one wasn't going to come along anytime soon and as my egg years were clocking away I decided to look after 'me' and try IVF using my own eggs and an anonymous sperm donor.

    I have attempted 3 cycle's over the past year. Twice with the same clinic. Even when I got my follicle scan, looking inside seeing things in their growing I got excited. Alas, number one and two failed so I moved on to another specialist in the hope it may give me better success. Unfortunately this cycle also failed due to my egg quality (I would guess age) and my Doctor advised my only chance of fulfilling my dream of being a mum would be to use donor eggs.

    Growing Up & Family
    A bit about my background, I grew up in the bush on a large property outside of Melbourne with my parents and younger sister. I loved my childhood it was all about love, laughter, playing and exploring the gold mine in our back yard. We loved climbing tree's and made our very own 'Faraway-Tree' from the Enid Blyton series. We also loved doll's, Barbies, Baby-That-Away you name it.

    We also had lot of animals to look after, chooks, guinea pigs, rabbits, ferrets lol, birds, dogs & a cat called Wilbur who lived forever. We also had a great love of football, my Dad took us to the football often. I now take my nieces to the football and they love it. I love seeing kids faces and of them dressing up in team gear and I would love to have a child of my own doing the same and experiencing their excitement. My Dad also had a great love of music, so my sister & I were dancing round the lounge room at age 5 to the Beatles White album. If i were to have a child, music & sport would feature in a great part of their lives. I feel team sport is a great way for kids to learn how to make friends, relationships, meet new people and keep fit.

    My parents are very kind, loyal, loving and supportive and they have supported me the whole way throughout my IVF journey even taking me to the hospital for EPU's.

    Getting Older
    As I got older I moved out of home into the great beyond, otherwise the other side of Melbourne, 'Bayside'. I always envisaged I would have a husband and a family eventually but unfortunately this hasn't happened YET, I suppose a woman's fertility years weren't really talked about in the 80's at school which is why I waited and explored the world. If I were to have a partner in the future they would have to be 'the one' meaning supportive, caring, funny, loyal & loving.

    At the age of 30, I moved o/s on my own to discover and retrace my mother's Northern Irish heritage. I had planned to stay only a year but due to great career opportunities and travel I stayed for 4 years. In this time I backpacked around Europe, solo for 3 months, so character building, great experience, possibly I may be able to tell my child my stories one day.

    Now
    So now I am here and I have fulfilled nearly all my lifelong dreams except the one thing and that is to be a mum. Every day I see children and my heart melts, even seeing a woman pregnant makes my heart flutter and my imagination runs wild of thoughts of my own baby in my arms. My cousin's 5 year old son recently asked why I didn't have kids as he said you would be such a good mum, I know I would. That was a cute thing too say.

    I long to do things with my child like picnics, walks, spending Xmas time with the family, cuddling even feeding. Each time I see a lone parent with their child I just imagine me with my own little person to love unconditionally.

    I am financially independent and most people would say I am extremely caring and empathetic. On the other hand though I am also fun and an extrovert. I have a great support network of friends and family who all know my journey and are supportive of this. I am extremely family oriented and spend a lot of time with my parents whom I love dearly, they are like my best friends. I am very blessed as everyone comments how nice my folks are. They even babysit people's kids as they love children so much.

    My sister has 3 children who are beautiful little soles, gentle and loving and I love being Aunty Lis to them. I know my mum would love to have another grand child and my nieces and nephew a cousin.
    I am fit and healthy and exercise regularly, I can just see myself power walking with pram and bub in tow. I love meeting new people and trying new things.

    Finally, I am really hoping I can fulfill my dream to have a child. I just don't want to go through life not experiencing this great gift and I hope that one beautiful angel could maybe help me do this.

    Lisa

    My ad;
    My name is Lisa and despite not finding my ideal life partner, I would love to become a mother.

    I've had a rich and varied life, but none of my relationships were quite right to bring a child into the world to cherish together. I always thought I had more time, and after traveling, living all over the world and experiencing the joys of life, I suddenly find myself without the egg quality to have a baby of my own.

    I've been through numerous IVF cycles as a single woman and despite producing follies I don't have the egg quality needed to make a baby. I have used a sperm donor with no success and my specialist has advised me that an egg donor is my only option.

    I have spent many months processing and considering egg donation and I have come to a place in my mind where I would dearly cherish a child to love and raise, and my only chance is with donor eggs or donor embryos.

    I am a successful, stable, happy woman with a close family. I enjoy time with my nieces and nephews and I would love the chance to have a baby of my own to share with my wider family.

    If you are under 36, have completed your family and have considered egg donation, please contact me. I am happy to cover interstate donation or someone local.

    Documented actual expenditure incurred on medical expenses and associated travel costs will be reimbursed.
    Hoping someone will help me to become a mother.
    Lisa xoxox

    The text of this advertisement has been approved by the Victorian Minister for Health, as required by s.40 of the Human Tissue Act 1982 (Vic) (December 2015).




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    Hi Lisa, just wanted to say good luck. I am 43, also in Melbourne and pregnant with my second donor egg baby. If you'd like to chat then feel free to message me. I travelled to South Africa for my donor cycle. A lot of people go there and also other countries where the process is much simpler.

    Best wishes to you.

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    Default Hello

    Hi Erin

    How are you?
    Did this cost a lot of $?
    Lisa

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    Hi Lisa

    It was much cheaper than doing it in Australia and it is also a lot faster as there are donors ready to go and you choose them. It is different to here in that the donors are anonymous. I've been very lucky to have gone twice and had it work first time both times. We have a1 year old daughter and I'm pregnant again with a sibling.

    I'll come back to you tomorrow with some more information.

    In the meantime though, it is worth looking at the thread "egg donation in South Africa" here on Bub hub and you will find there are similar threads for Greece, Czech Republic, USA and maybe others countries. The ladies on these threads are very helpful and friendly and that certainly gave us the courage to take this approach. There are many single ladies there too.

    Erin

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    Default Hi

    What about the costs of travel?
    That would make it a lot more expensive than doing it here

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    Well, you certainly have to take that into account, and also that it may take more than one go so you could be paying for travel more than once.

    I can only speak for South Africa...flights are relatively expensive depending on the season but everything is super cheap once you get there. The first time we went in May/June, I think we spent $20k all up including Ivf, but we went for 3 weeks, hired a car and drove all over, did a safari and just had a lovely holiday. We didn't really hold back.

    For my second trip, where I just went for 4 nights on my own and did a frozen embryo transfer, the total cost was about $5-$6k.

    I would imagine the US or Europe would be more expensive.

    I don't know how that compares to costs of doing it locally as we decided early on to head overseas because we wanted to select our own donor.

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    Hi
    I am a donor here in Australia- just about to start my 8th cycle. All my recipients wanted to have a known donor so their child had access to me if they wished, it's been a lovely experience and egg donation is something I now encourage lots of people to consider. I met all my recipients on eggdonationaustralia.com.au if you want to take a look, they have a fb page too. There are other options also, other Australian websites and the option to go overseas depending on what type of donor you are after.

    Wishing you lots of luck .

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    so it only cost you 5k with flights?

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    Yes, about $2500 for my flight, $1200 for accom, and approx $650 for the frozen embryo transfer plus some for meds and some spending money. But remember, I had to do a full fresh cycle first in order to have those frozen embryos!

    And as @spotsmum said, you have to think about whether having a known donor is important to you. That's a biggie and I don't mean to wash over it at all. For us, we would have liked it but other benefits swayed us to going overseas. Having an anonymous donor is not for everybody.

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    Default Eda

    Quote Originally Posted by spotsmum View Post
    Hi
    I am a donor here in Australia- just about to start my 8th cycle. All my recipients wanted to have a known donor so their child had access to me if they wished, it's been a lovely experience and egg donation is something I now encourage lots of people to consider. I met all my recipients on eggdonationaustralia.com.au if you want to take a look, they have a fb page too. There are other options also, other Australian websites and the option to go overseas depending on what type of donor you are after.

    Wishing you lots of luck .
    Hi spotsman
    Yes I am on the EDA page and I regularly go to their meetups. I am also on the Egg donor angels page. Thanks for replying. Lisa xxx


 

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