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    But he's always done it. Why is it a problem now?
    If you don't want to talk to him, get the kids to answer. Are the kids ok with him ringing every night?

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    He seen the kids on the weekend this is my time with the kids ...and he is still making out that he has gone away for work to them ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    He seen the kids on the weekend this is my time with the kids ...and he is still making out that he has gone away for work to them ...
    They are still his kids though...

    If you are not comfortable every night then set aside x amount of nights to call and let the kids answer the phone.

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    You really, really need to get legal advice.

    Focus on what you have control over and knowing where you stand legally with the children is a huge part of this.

    Stop getting caught up in the small stuff and focus your energy on the big things.

    Our court orders have time set aside for two phone calls a week unless agreed otherwise. I can't stand my ex, but I am not going to stop him talking to the kids. If we are out I text him and say we will be home at x time can they call you then.

    You can't get in the way of their relationship with him no matter the circumstances of your break up. If you do he can use it against you at court.

    Play by the rules, but first go to a lawyer to find out what the 'rules' are.

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    I understand what you are saying I just feel like this house doesn't get a break from him and it really makes me sad that he won't tell them he has gone he is waiting for me to do it I'm sure ....but I'm not going to do his dirty work for him ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    I understand what you are saying I just feel like this house doesn't get a break from him and it really makes me sad that he won't tell them he has gone he is waiting for me to do it I'm sure ....but I'm not going to do his dirty work for him ...
    Well if that's the case then it's best to keep the status quo and have him call the kids every night as usual.

    I feel like you're being a little petty about the phone call thing to be honest and I wonder if subconsciously you know it's a way to hurt him? Him maintaining regular contact with his kids is the one redeeming feature I've heard about this guy.

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    Yes but it is a very bitter sweet subject knowing that he makes a 5min phone conversation to his kids minutes before he goes to the club and gets drunk and gambles ..

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    That's why the phone calls are so short and sweet..it just hurts that he does this to his kids ...right or wrong that is how he makes me feel..

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledPansy View Post
    I understand what you are saying I just feel like this house doesn't get a break from him and it really makes me sad that he won't tell them he has gone he is waiting for me to do it I'm sure ....but I'm not going to do his dirty work for him ...
    Huh? I don't understand this at all. You need to tell them he has gone. Don't think of it as his job. Think of it as looking after your kids mental health. They must be so confused about what is going on.

    Your posts almost sound like you are leaving your options open for him to come back.

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    No I just know that they are going to be upset and angry and that he should be the one to tell them that he has left


 

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