you're a grown woman and you're coming on here spinning all these yarns about ifs and maybes and making all these empty plans.
people have put in time and energy and given you great advice and info about resources available to you.
I believe if you wanted to move on with your life, you would have already. people leave marriages and move on over much less.
I think you like to come on here to shoot the breeze and get vindicated for what you know is true, but when it comes to implementing anything, you stall and keep using these little plot twists (Easter plans and his sister, wtf!? who cares?) to keep spinning the wheels.
people are trying to help but you're not really helping yourself.