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    Default Partner not keen on another baby

    Hi all!

    My partner and I already have a 3 year old together and I am getting baby fever! If I bring it up about having another baby he says no and our daughter will be an only child (although seems a little sarcastic when saying this)
    How can I not think about baby #2 and steer myself away from the idea? I didnt want an overly big age gap but I hate forcing the idea to him if he isnt keen

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    Depending on a whole range of things it may be worth having an indepth chat with your partner. Or it may be better letting it rest for a bit.
    - age
    - how long you have been together
    - was your first child planned?
    - are you financially secure?
    - have both of you enjoyed parenthood thus far?
    - commitment plans? Is marriage on the cards? (Not that marriage is critical however if it's something one or both of you believe in and it hasn't occured yet then that may be a sign of something bigger that needs to be worked through).

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    I think he's just enjoying the one to be honest we are both still pretty young in saying all this though she was semi planned! I am 20 and he's 24 we've been together about 4 and a half years.
    I would like to be married but I think he doesnt want that yet he's not too good at being open about the future which is a bit annoying

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    You are both very young. That's not to say you aren't or can't be darn good parents - just that I can understand why your partner isn't jumping for joy at the thought of a second.

    If your partner is anything like me before having (more) kids he may want job security (for me this involved study first), financial security (for me this involved buying a house) and to experience life a little first (for me this involved living overseas and travelling extensively first).

    I wasn't ready until I was about 28-30.

    Sorry if that's now what you want to hear.

    All the best xx


 

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