+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 5 of 5
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    1,445
    Thanks
    592
    Thanked
    407
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Dealing with regret

    How do you deal with regret? Decisions/actions from the past you want to move on from?

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    1,911
    Thanks
    1,495
    Thanked
    698
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I'm not sure but I'd like to know too.
    My DP and I's relationship is currently crumbling after he made some very poor decisions.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Posts
    888
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked
    317
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I think it comes down to forgiveness, I don't think you can move on until you forgive. Not only forgiving others but yourself too. Keeping in mind that forgiving does not mean forgetting, or that it didn't hurt, or excusing bad behaviour, or even reconciliation.

    Last year I finally forgave years of hurtful actions of a "friend". I feel like a tone of bricks was lifted off my shoulders. Although forgiving didn't not mean we remained friends I cut all ties. I just no longer carry the hurt or anger, I forgave, made peace with it and moved on. And it was so much harder than I can express.

  4. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to sparklebug For This Useful Post:

    binnielici  (01-03-2016),SuperGranny  (01-03-2016),VicPark  (01-03-2016),Wise Enough  (01-03-2016)

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Dec 2015
    Posts
    2,367
    Thanks
    3,204
    Thanked
    1,275
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I think for one its not a quick process. There's not easy answer. I agree with @sparklebug that forgiveness is a big part of it.

    I think focussing on the now is also important. Finding what is positive in your life NOW and finding joy in that helps as well.

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    2,369
    Thanks
    500
    Thanked
    1,489
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by binnielici View Post
    I think focussing on the now is also important. Finding what is positive in your life NOW and finding joy in that helps as well.
    Definitely this. Catch yourself dwelling on how things could have been different/better and redirect your thoughts to all the good things you have now.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Will I regret getting rid of the cot?
    By deku in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 22-01-2016, 17:21
  2. Will I regret it forever?
    By ScubaGal in forum Working Hubbers - Employed
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: 23-12-2015, 18:18
  3. Replies: 82
    Last Post: 14-12-2015, 11:50

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Hills Swimming
Swim with your friends and you will all get a 33% discount!* We have programs to suit all ages and abilities, with small classes held in our warm indoor 25 metre pool. Highly qualified teachers, and award winning programs. *conditions apply
featured supporter
Wendys Music School
Wendy’s Music School. Experience, Quality and great service! For qualifying students we will get you playing or singing your favourite music in 90 days GUARANTEED! Book a free assessment online now!
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!