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    Default Dealing with regret

    How do you deal with regret? Decisions/actions from the past you want to move on from?

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    I'm not sure but I'd like to know too.
    My DP and I's relationship is currently crumbling after he made some very poor decisions.

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    I think it comes down to forgiveness, I don't think you can move on until you forgive. Not only forgiving others but yourself too. Keeping in mind that forgiving does not mean forgetting, or that it didn't hurt, or excusing bad behaviour, or even reconciliation.

    Last year I finally forgave years of hurtful actions of a "friend". I feel like a tone of bricks was lifted off my shoulders. Although forgiving didn't not mean we remained friends I cut all ties. I just no longer carry the hurt or anger, I forgave, made peace with it and moved on. And it was so much harder than I can express.

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    I think for one its not a quick process. There's not easy answer. I agree with @sparklebug that forgiveness is a big part of it.

    I think focussing on the now is also important. Finding what is positive in your life NOW and finding joy in that helps as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by binnielici View Post
    I think focussing on the now is also important. Finding what is positive in your life NOW and finding joy in that helps as well.
    Definitely this. Catch yourself dwelling on how things could have been different/better and redirect your thoughts to all the good things you have now.


 

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