My husband has this new friend from work - he has been hanging around for about 12 months now. we have some other friends from my husbands work who we occasionally see. all couples and some couples with young kids like ours.
This guy is single broke up with girlfriend of about 3 years about 12 months ago. This is going to be a bit of a rant so forgive spelling and grammar.
The mutual friends from work say they are all mates with him but don't really have anything nice to say about him except when he doesn't have a girlfriend he is your best mate and when there is a girl on the scene you won't here from him for months. I can't really explain but I just hate this guy - here are some things that annoy me, I think maybe I am being a bit unreasonable but I just really hate him. Btw my husband works out of town and also competes
in sport professionally so he has limited time for both me and our sons, I am pretty easy going so I don't mind the old boys night etc but expect a certain amount of family time.
This guy comes to our house for a few drinks and then ends up staying the night sleeping in a swag in the car, my husband reckons he feels sorry for him and he doesn't have a wife to pick him up (we live 20mins out of town) so says it is fine for him to stay.
When he is around my husband doesn't seem to want me or our sons around - normally with his other friends who all have kids bring their wives and kids over as well so we all socialise together.
This guy keeps asking my husband to go out to pubs etc with him. My husband is 37 married with 2 kids - we don't go out drinking anymore. My husband has gone on a few occasions and hasn't answered his phone when I have called. This never happens....I have also rung this guys phone to try and track down my husband and on one occasion he didn't answer his phone because he knew my number and on the other answered and pretended he didn't know who my husband was.
He brings my husband takeaway (just enough for him) when he knows my kids and I are home. (This is small thing I know but it's weird) and always does it around meal times so my husband eats with him rather Than having dinner or lunch with us.
He will walk into my house and not speak to me...
i am so used to my husbands friends treating me like a queen and with utmost respect, this guy is just so disrespectful.....
I don't want to tell my husband who he can be friends with...he honestly can't see what I see and thinks that I am it being silly.
How do I deal with this?