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    Would you leave your 6 year old and 13 year old home alone at 5am in the morning to go to the gym with your husband? Or is that the height of irresponsibility?

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    I think it depends on the kids but I don't think it's the worst thing a parent can do.

    My husband leaves for work at 5 most days and I have often wondered what age my kids would be OK left alone for half an hour for a quick walk in the morning after my husband has left.

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    My dd is a lot younger than your proposed ages so it's not a situation I have any real experience with as a parent. But, I personally can't imagine leaving a 6 year old at home with only a 13 year old to watch over them.

    Eta - I wouldn't call it the height of irresponsibility though!
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    Probably not no. If it was a 13 year old and 10 year old thigh, I probably would

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    People used to pay me to babysit at 13 and I had quite a few friends who babysat at that age as well. Are 13 year olds not trustworthy anymore?

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    Default Would you do this?

    It depends on a number of factors. Does the 6 yo wake before mum gets home?
    How long is she gone for?
    Is she contactable at the gym?
    Is it close by if she needs to rush home?
    How responsible/mature is the 13yo?

    I think it's important to take the time to look after yourself as well. If there was another time free i could go I would certainly choose not to be leaving them but there's certainly worst things you could do.

    13yos can and do (sadly) have babies too!

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    Probably not...its hard to say until I'm in the situation.

    I just had aquick google and while there isn't a law against it there's a few loopholes like "reasonable" levels of care , time and supervision.

    In my mind a 6 and 13yo should be at school. what about then or lunch break or while they're cared for after school? Could the parents tag team? One in the morning one in the evening?

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    No I wouldn't. I don't think it's the height of irresponsibility though. Personally I don't agree with giving children full responsibility for younger children.

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    My kids are much younger than this, so its not something I've thought about, but similarly to PP I was babysitting 3 kids together for hours at a time at 13 y o. So an hour or two at the gym shouldnt be a problem if the 13 y o is responsible, AND the parents are able to be contacted, or a neighbour etc, if the parents need. Also, I dont know how fair it is for an older sibling to have to 'get the younger one ready' for school in the morning - so I would wonder if the parents would be back to do the school routine.

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    My kids are almost 12 and 5.
    While my almost 12yr old is responsible, on weekends she'll let us sleep in and makes her brother toast or cereal for breakfast, I must say I would not be able to do this.
    Although I will run down to the end of our street to the bakery before school some mornings. (A couple years ago I would have never thought I'd do this) this takes me 10mins max.
    Any longer I would feel uneasy, I often wonder at what age I will be able to dash out for a half hour walk in the morning.


 

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