Well fast forward a few years and it was me with anxiety in sleep school with DD at 4 months. Best thing I ever did with her. Sadly that auntie is divorced from my my uncle so I can't apologise in person but I have sent many apologies in my prayers to her.
I was never going to co-sleep and actually looked down my nose at my friends attachment parenting. I was also going to have a baby that 'fit into mine and DH's life' and we could still do all the same stuff.,
Pah!! We didn't go out past 5.30 for the first 6mths and my 8mth DD enjoys the comfy bed with me while her Daddy sleeps on the sofa most nights. EVERYTHING revolves around her and her nap times. I am a 'child led' attachment parent.
Soooo much changes from this side of the parenting fence.
Fast forward to them having kids and onNYE I *almost* got an apology for the way they treated us and how much they ostracised me and caused rifts with my DH over it.
Now they're the ones who sit in the car for an extra hour when their kids need extra sleep amongst other things!
My eldest is only 6 but I will never judge parents with kids older than me. Who knows what's in store for my family in the future.
New motto: everyone does the best they know at the time
Now 'scuse me whilst I open a Peppa yogurt whilst ds3 and I roam the aisles of Coles 😋
I'm looking forward to doing many of these things as DD grows up (can we also count wine as mummy's special medicine?!) 😂
she's currently 8 months and some of the things we said we'd never do vs what we have done:
- she would have her own room there's no way she's coming in our room. Well not only did she sleep in our room for the first month I then moved out of our room into her room with her and I'm still there 8 months later.
- she will not sleep in bed with me that's just dangerous. She certainly does sleep in the bed with me (when she chooses to) and by gosh it is the cutest thing ever!
- she will never even know what sugar is. Her favourite food already is custard 😔
- she won't watch tv til she's at least 2. Well sometimes I want to watch tv and not just when she's asleep!
- we will never give her a dummy. First night home from hospital = where's that dummy we bought just in case.
- we won't have a house full of pink. Omg it's like pink vomited all over our house.
- we won't have a house full of baby stuff. She's taken over for sure we have baby stuff everywhere.
- she'll just fit into our lives. Seriously PMSL at that one. Everything revolves around her sleep and feeding needs and moods. And that's ok.
- I will make all her food from scratch she will never have that packaged baby food crap. Well I'm sick of making it only to chuck it out so yeah we're trialling the packaged food 😳
- having a child won't affect our relationship. 8 months of sleep deprivation, zero libido and total change in priorities certainly does affect our relationship.
And all of this is perfectly ok with us as we're just going with it and trying to keep this little human happy and content
hmmm except maybe the last one.
Cosleeping - when my brother told me he coslept with his dd and sil with ds, I thought that was so weird. But of course when it was my turn we did the same thing!
No buying double of everything, the kids need to learn to share.
Now I buy 2 identical colour as well where possible to avoid the whole drama and whinging and complaining.
No tv under 2. Mostly worked when dd was an only child, after ds came along tv was my savior!
White lies about food.
I let the kids have a taste of coffee one time. It had no sugar so was bitter and I knew they wouldn't like it.
Now if I have a drink I don't want them trying I just say it tastes like coffee.
Desserts/ treats if kids eat dinner.
And lots more already mentioned in previous posts.
Oh and one more. I said I wouldn't go on and on about my kids to others. Used to find it so boring listening to other parents. But being one now, it's probably 80% of my conversation
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