@Annerley I have never been offered any counselling but I did through HR yesterday at work! I think if I ever did counselling I would be locked up in a straight jacket. So much stuff would surface from my life and all the death and tragedy I dealt with in the cops. It would not end up relating to IVF at all! I know In Vic they have to do counselling before IVF.
This is my 3rd mc and all were natural and Ive never been advised to have a d&c as my bleeding kicks iff itself. By the time my mc started I was out of tears. We have 2 frosties left and that is it for us. I am now questioning whether I made a mistake with IVF as its caused so much more pain and health issues for me. We have our DS9, so do I want to keep hurting our family? I cant leave 2 frosties but I have no expectations they will stick. But I am very nervous that once it ends I may have a meltdown. So I understand your fears.. Be that SAHM, you don't need to have a baby to do that. There are no rules in society. You make your rules and you own it.. I love to work, and its what I decide to do baby or not. Im sick if living with 'what if' in the back if my mind.
I hope you find peace. Thats what we need, no matter the outcome x