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    Default 5 year old DS wetting his pants

    Ive posted here before but I'm still having the same problem.
    DS has just turned 5. Hes in PP now and we have been having this problem for so long.
    Long story short, he is still wetting his pants. He has good weeks where he'll go to the toilet no prob then weeks where he'll wet his pants everyday. Last week and this week he has come home smelling of wee nearly every day. Ive spoken to his teacher and shes been great. She mentioned the school psych too.

    He is in dry nights at night as we have never had a dry morning. We have tried several times (I did it for a month once and changed sheets EVERY day. He just doesn't wake up...he sleeps so deep. Ive tried getting him up to go toilet before I go to bed and hes so asleep he just wont go.

    We've tried rewards, punishment and nothing works. DH gets so frustrated which I know doesn't help but also I understand it.
    Hes a happy boy, likes school and is a clever little thing too...except with the toilet.
    I just don't know what to do any more.

    Any advice for me? PLEASE!!!

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    I don't have any experience with this but just wanted to point out that punishing him for something beyond his control is really not going to achieve anything. While I can only imagine your frustration he's not doing it because he's naughty and you said yourself he's a deep sleeper and just isn't waking so it's not like he's doing it on purpose.
    I've heard that there's actually a chemical (that develops in babies/toddlers) that triggers a child to become dry overnight and has a connection with waking when the urge to urinate occurs; have you spoken to a doctor?
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    Have u checked his tonsils or adenoids?

    My ds had his chopped out at 4 due to obstruction.. Basically he was always tired, bad concentration /short attention span, tossed and turned at night but also started to wet his pants.

    His tonsils were so large that he developed sleep apnoea, and when finally fell into a deep deep sleep, he'd wet himself.

    Our surgeon actually did say there is a link between tonsils / bed wetting (don't ask me for a 'sauce' please, this is what he told us).

    Anyways, not sure if that helps at all???

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    Please don't punish your little one for wetting the bed. He will grow out of it eventually. I wet the ned until i was 8, my daughter was the same age, my brother was in pull ups until 11. He will grow out of it.

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    Our chiropractor advertises treatment for bed wetting. I don't know much about it as haven't had that problem but I would look into it if you've tried everything else. It's not painful. Understand Chiro isn't for everyone but if your interested try to find a good family Chiro in your area. It could be a very simple solution.

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    I could have written this a few months ago but my ds isn't 5 till next month.

    he daytime toilet trained himself at 2.5yo in a couple of days, so at 4.5yrs it was worrysome him wetting at kinder, and he then started to wet at childcare too!

    We started a routine of me taking him to the toilet upon arrival and that worked instantly....but then there were the nights.

    he would leak through a dry nite and have a puddle twice as wide as himself round on the bed every night.

    I'm not sure what happened but gradually the puddles reduced bit by bit and he would have the occasional dry night! I got sick of changing sheets so purchased washable bed pads for incontenant adults that go ontop of the sheets so i only had to chage that most times.

    I thought this is insane...he goes to the toilet before bed...and still is wet but the amount is reducing so I've started taking him to the toilet 4-6hrs after he goes to bed (8 bed, 1-2am usually to the toilet) and he wees, and since then we have only had 3 wet beds this month.

    we are trialing night 3 with no 'nappy' tonight. hopefully we continue this way

    I'm not sure if its due to him finally clicking or me taking him to the loo...or a mix of both...but I'm glad as we were going through 3 packs of dry nites every fortnight.

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    Hi!
    Sorry have not read all the replies, so sorry if it has already been suggested!
    I have not had experience myself, but if you have not seen a gp/pead that would be the first thing I would do.

    Also wanted to suggest a bed wetting alarm, it may help for nights!

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    Default 5 year old DS wetting his pants

    Hi OP! I taught 2 Children who had the same issue as your son. Please see a dr as in their cases it wasn't laziness or psychological

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    I know a boy who had a physical condition, that was fixed with medication and perhaps surgery. See your gp or a specialist, that would be my next step. Reward charts, or punishment will not help if there is an actual physical problem. marie


 

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