Last edited by hopeful1986; 24-02-2016 at 16:00.
The main issue I have with this is the power imbalance. What does a 50 odd year old man have in common with a 21 year old who's on the cusp of starting her life?
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I do agree that if they are adults and consenting, it's not really my business. I would personally recoil at doing something like that but ehh.
But I believe it's a bit more complex than just consenting adults makes it above discussion. What if she is under severe financial stress and having s@x with her sugar Daddy to pay her bills? What if she is a drug addict? Is he just taking advantage of her vulnerable state? What if either of them are married and their partner doesn't know? What if he is an old man who despite recognising she is essentially a prostitute, 'hires' her bc deep down he's desperately lonely and hoping it's a way to meet a younger woman? Is she taking advantage of him knowing that?
Of course some of these issues arise in proper/traditional relationships but they are usually frowned upon so is this any different?
As for my dh, no I would not be okay with it. We're in a monogamous marriage. If I met him while he was doing it, I wouldn't judge him.
As for anyone else I know, the same would apply to if it were my children.
Of those that I know enough to have a conversation about it, there are no regrets and it's something they would do again with hindsight.
A 20/21 year old doesn't usually have much confidence, sure. But that's hardly the client's fault. And it's hardly taking advantage when you have to pay for the service.
These things are, for the most part, very well run.
Of course there is the exception to every rule...
My friend works as an escort- in 10 years she has had sex with clients less than 15 times. It's not all about sex.
As for the married people (because women do it too- there are male sex workers) using these services, yes its horrid- IF they are cheating. their wives could well know they use them... I doubt it, but some do.
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