@Ahalfdozen that is just "WOW". So not OK, no wonder you've moved on and let them go. And really good that you have a great MIL. My MIL passed away before DH and I met and I'm really sad about that because she sounds like she was a fantastic Mum and I would have loved to experienced that type of relationship.
It is ridiculous how it is always all about them. My sister asked me to be present at the birth of her first child and she made it really clear that she didn't want Mum in there at all. So of course when she went into labour Mum came up to the hospital hoping to get in (who told her she was in labour???!!!) and I knew my sister's wishes, so said no. Then I had to deal with a mother in floods of tears and hysterics in the waiting room "My own daughter doesn't want me. Blah, blah, blah", making it all about HER. I was so p!ssed off! And my father was on the phone every ten minutes, taken to bed with severe anxiety about my sister and the baby. FFS!!!! It's not about you!!!