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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Have they not found a bed for you yet OP? I hope you get one soon.

    No I haven't feel that way but there seems to be a strong correlation with those that have and depression. Do you remember feeling this way when you weren't depressed or is it a new feeling?
    Supposedly Monday at this stage, with a plan if things don't change to again look for the CAT team to arrange to go to ED to wait to make sure they give priority to me for the bed.

    DS is 12 - DHS have removed him from the home so at this point there is respite from him. The thing is though, I'm not so sure I actually want him home. It isn't that I think life would be better without him, probably more than then there wouldn't be any consequences for whatever I choose to do (his father is deceased & family-wise he really only has me). If fact, if he wasn't here then the one thing I'm certain of is that I wouldn't be alive. That is probably where the resentment is coming from

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    Hugs, I hope you get the help you need soon.

    There have been times when I regret/resent having kids. Pre kids all I thought I ever wanted was to be a sahm. Reality is so different. Being a parent life changes so much. My life is no longer my own and i am responsible for other people now.
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    I have moments of it but no. My sisters friend didn't want kids but accidently fell pregnant and the mum particularly seems to resent her DD completely. ALl she does is complain about how she misses her life before children, how she can't do anything , how she interrupts her marriage. She is in childcare 4 days per week, she only works 2 of those days and she has in bed lights off by 630pm everything night so she has time to herself. Won't even read her a book anything. When I see that - I know I actually don't regret having kids.

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    Depends on the time of the day! Whilst they are quiet sleeping and gorgeous I could not imagine my life without them. When it's been a crazy day and I feel like a slave and a police negotiator diffusing arguements I do daydream about my selfish life pre-kids sailing around Greek islands, backpacking through Europe.
    I always think perhaps those that tried really hard to fall pregnant are much better parents? Mine were both 1 hit wonders so I guess I never longed to be a parent, it just happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mmumm View Post
    I always think perhaps those that tried really hard to fall pregnant are much better parents? Mine were both 1 hit wonders so I guess I never longed to be a parent, it just happened.
    I think it's more about what your pre-kid life was like. My kids were all first cycle kids but i never had an interest ingoing travelling, or drinking and partying or anything like that. I already stated home and just potted around so not much changed. But I think if you had a very child-unfriendly lifestyle beforehand, that change can impact you so much more because it's a much bigger change.

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    Oh I know that feeling so well.....
    As an older mum (42 when DS born - he's an only child) my pre-child life was totally child unfriendly. I'd never changed a nappy and rarely held a baby/ child before my own arrived. As with Harvs, having DS has ended what was a happy marriage before birth. My ex and I both expected him ( the ex) to be so much more involved but DS was a mummy's boy from birth. DS has also been a challenging child - poor sleeper and terrible eater, not to mention the high energy levels and tantrums.

    I miss my old life terribly. I don't like having someone so dependent upon me. I'm bored by toddler play and spending between 30 and 180 minutes each evening getting him to sleep.... Let's just say f@&k my life! And now as a single mum, my life is so monotonous - work and child care with little respite.

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    Hugs everyone. Sucks feeling like this doesnt it!?

    I have moments of regret daily but I think it's because I don't cope well with parenthood which stems from unresolved anxiety and depression issues. I've tried to get help in the past but clearly not the right help, so I'm starting again to get help.

    OP, I hope everything pans out for Monday. Is your son with someone you know?

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    Since I have been depressed and sleep deprived I do all the time. I just feel that I am doing such a crap job that they would be better off without me. I'm saying it because I love them so much and I want better for them. It just seems that my best is not good enough and there just seems to be one thing after another.

    I am starting to wonder When will I get a break. I don't understand really because I am a kind, generous person and I always put everyone else's needs above mine in our family, so why do I seem to get all these bloody life challenges.

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    I can relate to all you just said Skye Baby - today I'm feeling more than ever like DS just needs for me to be completely gone from his life for him to have all he deserves

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    Your son needs you. Your son wants you. Your son loves you. You are his world. Without you he would be lost. You've loved him unconditionally from the beginning, as he does you. You need each other. Op you are going through so so much at the moment. Im praying you get some support around you soon, this is just too much for anyone to handle by themselves.

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