Yeah I found it off putting. Tried to do it with number 1 but it just made me anxious about the pain I'd feel in childbirth. Had a 4.2 kg bub and was given an episiotomy and also tore a little up towards urethra (delivery on bed by Ob in private system). Recovery from epi was awful- sex was painful for months after. Number 2 I was determined to avoid another epi but still couldn't bring myself to do massage- had a water birth at birth centre with midwife and generally more active labour 3.9 kg bub. Had a smallish tear that needed some sutures and healed without complications. I do think birth position, water birth and a support team encouraging a gentle delivery make the biggest difference.