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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemmi1987 View Post
    with due respect incidents can happen in even the BEST run centers,
    Yes and incidents occurring *can* be a sign that a centre is sub-standard.

    If a child can have the time to do the specifics (multiple actions) of what is alleged in this situation then that's a sign (IMO) that the kids were out of sight for too long.
    Last edited by VicPark; 18-02-2016 at 15:34.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Oh VP, what on earth makes you think that he is saying all these things to his wife for the first time ever? Has it not occurred to you that they have had extensive phone chats since this all came out? That TheDad is posting because his wife did, everyone is up in arms, so he wanted to clarify what his actions have been post-incident? It's really not that outlandish.
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    Of course it's occured to me.
    Either way I find it weird and a little off that the DH is engaging in tit-for-tat on this forum. Any forum.

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    Default TRIGGER WARNINGMy child was molested by another child at daycare...what shoul...

    Quote Originally Posted by Hollywood View Post
    Why is this even being discussed online on an open forum?? If that happened to my child I sure a hell wouldn't be posting it online. I feel bad for the dad having had this aired in a public place.
    Agree - however people discuss sensitive things and biatch about their husbands and partners all the time on here. It's a long standing BubHub tradition. For me, it's the tit-for-tat that's a little off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I agree. And paranoid/over protective. Sometimes I wonder how some people ever leave their house. Everyone is the enemy and out to harm us it would seem to some!
    So you would automatically have total trust and faith in first time anonymous posters, a daycare centre where your kid was allegedly sexually abused, and a DH that kept important information about your kids from you. Rightio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jontu View Post
    @TheDad , sounds to me you did the right thing. Your dd is going to daycare on different days to the boy, both kids are being shadowed, you spoke to the childcare and directors straight away.
    The dad said the daycare suggested it was possible to send the kids on different days. From the wording of the post it didn't appear that this had occured yet (could be wrong though).

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    But they shouldn't be telling anyone else if they have informed the parents? It's a total breach of confidentiality.
    This. The director cannot say anything about what is happening with the boy/parents. So we cannot assume 'nothing' is happening or has happened. Just like they cannot divulge if there have been other reports or incidents.

    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes and incidents occurring *can* be a sign that a centre is sub-standard.

    If a child can have the time to do the specifics (multiple actions) of what is alleged in this situation then that's a sign (IMO) that the kids were out of sight for too long.
    Multiple actions? From what I read on the op it was 1 incident that did not take 'ages'.

    Please stop blaming the carers. They probably feel bad enough as it is.

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    Default TRIGGER WARNINGMy child was molested by another child at daycare...what shoul...

    I'm sorry this happened to your daughter.

    I really hope the little boy in question receives the help he needs . To me it raises a lot of red flags and it should be reported for both children's sakes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    This. The director cannot say anything about what is happening with the boy/parents. So we cannot assume 'nothing' is happening or has happened. Just like they cannot divulge if there have been other reports or incidents.



    Multiple actions? From what I read on the op it was 1 incident that did not take 'ages'.

    Please stop blaming the carers. They probably feel bad enough as it is.
    Removing clothes and then the follow on counts as 2 actions in my book.

    Why are you defending the carers? How do you know they were doing the best job they could as opposed to slacking off (which happens at times). How do you know the centre wasn't slack with ratios or training for staff?

    If the carers and centre feel bad then perhaps that's because they should.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I agree. And paranoid/over protective. Sometimes I wonder how some people ever leave their house. Everyone is the enemy and out to harm us it would seem to some!
    Paranoid/overprotective... really.
    Oh ok so your not concerned that this has happened to a child at a daycare centre of all places? What if it were your child?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes and incidents occurring *can* be a sign that a centre is sub-standard.

    If a child can have the time to do the specifics (multiple actions) of what is alleged in this situation then that's a sign (IMO) that the kids were out of sight for too long.
    This entire incident would have taken less than 30 seconds. I don't think that's too long for toddlers to be out of sight.

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