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    Quote Originally Posted by TheDad View Post
    my daughter will now be closely monitored and safer.
    I don't understand how you are so trusting of the centre. It's not like they did a great job fulfilling their supervisory responsibilities earlier in the week! Did you ever get to the bottom of why the educators didn't witness the alleged incident? What were the ratios at the time? What activities were being conducted? Were educators sitting on their **** chatting? (It happens). Is there an area of the playground that isn't great for visibility - in which case has the centre closed it off?
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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    How did you know your wife had posted in here prior to her catching a flight home?. I just can't understand why your wife would tell you she has created a thread on THIS particular forum. Or did you discover this on your own? Interesting.
    I sent him the link to show him I wasn't overreacting to the situation- that others would feel the exact same way I do and that I'm perfectly justified in my reaction to the situation.

    I didn't mean it to become a public display.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mutex View Post
    I sent him the link to show him I wasn't overreacting to the situation- that others would feel the exact same way I do and that I'm perfectly justified in my reaction to the situation.

    I didn't mean it to become a public display.
    In that case I think your husband is out of line for encroaching on your safe space and posting in the thread.

    Your husband should be admitting he made a bad call and apologising unreservedly - not campaigning as to why he did the right thing and not expecting justification as to why you're upset .
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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    In that case I think your husband is out of line for encroaching on your safe space and posting in the thread.
    Is it a 'safe place' if she sent him the link? Why does he not deserve a chance to explain himself?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Is it a 'safe place' if she sent him the link? Why does he not deserve a chance to explain himself?
    Agree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Is it a 'safe place' if she sent him the link? Why does he not deserve a chance to explain himself?
    I think it's really weird for a husband to come, create an online account on a parenting forum and post in a thread like this. Just call your wife and tell her. Don't play it out over the Internet.

    There are a few flags that make me think there may be control or other issues at play here.

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    Cut him some slack. He probably thought WTF 'you're posting stuff about us online' and she showed him it.

    My DH probably wouldn't have sent this kids back but he wouldn't have told me if the situation was the same, for the same reasons. Some guys think that way. It's not ideal but that's the way it is.

    He did the best he thought at the time, and I'm sure he did (and will continue to) regret it for a long time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think it's really weird for a husband to come, create an online account on a parenting forum and post in a thread like this. Just call your wife and tell her. Don't play it out over the Internet.

    There are a few flags that make me think there may be control or other issues at play here.
    How is it any different to her posting on here? If my husband and I were arguing about this and he sent me a link I probably would have felt the need to defend myself as well.

    It's a **** situation for either of them to be in vp. I don't think either is right or wrong and we are only getting a tiny glimpse into their life so jumping to conclusions is unnecessary. They're both just trying to do the best they can in regards to their daughter right now. Cut them some slack.

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    Holly you are too trusting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Holly you are too trusting.
    And you are too cynical.

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