hi freyamum, I think you are becoming more aware of your own thoughts, and your own expectations are part of your problem. Honestly, there are very few women who have immaculate houses and organised kids, 100% of the time. When my children were small, I had very easy housework roster for myself. it was basically, if I felt like doing it I did it. If something needed to be done, like washing and meals cooked, that would often be the only thing that got done. I would often vacuum before going to bed, I would sometimes sort out a huge cupboard at night-time, after everyone was in bed. again that was only if I felt like doing it. If you can find some time for yourself, and not stress about every chore, your days will be more relaxed. hugs, marie.