It's your baby, your choice. I was the same. It annoys some people but so what. If your baby gets WC it's fatal. It's also more common than people think. Despite being vaccinated my friend got WC while at her own baby shower! It's also at a friends child primary school right now and was in a major hospital in Sydney due to a staff member having it when my friend gave birth.
Show them the story of baby Riley and don't give in. They'll forget about it 6mths after the babies born. Some people are so uneducated. Makes me sad
Yep, I did same, dh who is a dr so should know better got upset since he didn't think he mother was getting done, she proudly announced when my sister in law had first Bub shed decided not to( my sil had asked her to) I starred at her and told her Laura might have caved but I wouldn't....hubby tried to argue I couldn't make everyone in Coles vacc but I persisted that everyone who cares for our ds would be vacc. She did get vacc so I've been told had to take word for it not like they give adults certificates....my dad went to gp told them to hit him with everything they could think of and asked for a certificate ( he's a vet so used to certificates so wanted one for him).
For those that don't want to get vaxxed, youtube baby with whooping cough... then ask them if they want to do that to your child...
I know my parents and dh's mum have all had it for our sibling's babies so confident they're covered. just unsure about other family members like aunties etc. I don't want to be some militant witch but I also want to not be a stressed out mess thinking I've potentially exposed a baby to something fatal like WC.
friends etc I'm not fazed with, I'll just tell it like it is. most friends have babies anyway and would have had the shots themselves.
what about old people like grandparents? I'm a bit iffy about sickly oldies being around my baby, sounds shocking I know. they're always unwell but it's hard to know if that's just their own faltering immune systems or whether they're actually contagious with something?
like we don't want to hurt people's feelings saying no you can't see bub but we also are determined to protect our bub.
Sorry to hijack a bit but what about friends? I'm almost due and all my family have had theirs but not friends. Are you all asking everyone who will see the baby to have their vax? And does that mean you won't take Bub out of the house until they've had their immunisations? So much to think about, I'm sort of relying on herd immunity I guess as there is no way I can lock myself at home for months.
I think its a tricky balance for sure but at the end of the day, you're looking out for a newborn. I had a few older aunts and uncles who didn't see the baby until he was almost 3 months old and that worked out fine for them, they just got sent photos.
I think if you word it properly and express that its soley because you're protecting the baby not because you think they are ridden with disease lol they will probably understand. And if not, well I'm sure they'll come round in three months when baby is out and about enjoying life with worry.
Edit: My close friends did it. Just friends, they weren't worried about not seeing baby straight away and neither was I. On the few times we had to journey out before DS was vaxxed he was in his capsule carrier with a cover and we didn't stop for people to have a gawk at him as much as we would have loved to. We still had to go out and do things but he was away from people. You just have to be careful and be smart.
Last edited by Balfour; 17-02-2016 at 08:52.
ahhh ok. so you can go out in public but just keep bub covered up and don't let people get too close. makes sense.
gosh now I'm feeling super anxious about it. my dh got the vax a couple of years ago before we went travelling overseas and when he went to get it (not realizing he'd already had it) the gp said there's no need as he's covered. now I'm not so sure and think maybe he should get it again. what are people's thoughts?
I know the vax lasts for a few years but I'd rather be over the top and ensure he's fully immunized than risk it. esp as he's the one going back to work after a couple of weeks and will be in contact with people. I'd hate hot him to get it due to decreasing immunity and bring it home!
argh, paranoid now :/
Yep, talk to the kids. Even the 16 year old can get it done without parental permission (doctors can consider them a 'mature minor'). Let them know clearly what the options are, and why...then let them choose.
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