Just wondering if this is common and I should suck it up or if DH is being unfair.
I'm almost 8 months pregnant and we have a 3yo DD who doesn't attend childcare. I'm a SAHM and do almost everything around the house, all cooking, cleansing, groceries, laundry etc. DH baths DD when he gets home and most nights feeds her dinner (which I've cooked), we take turns putting her to sleep, often he does it more than me but that's because the one who doesn't put her to sleep has to clean up after dinner and he won't do it. He does the garden every couple of weeks. That's pretty much the extent of his involvement around the house.
Last time I was pregnant DH was very understanding. I was working then and would often need a nap after work as I would get exhausted. He was very supportive and understanding if he got home and I was asleep on the couch, dinner wasn't cooked etc, if I asked him to rub my lower back or pick up some groceries.
Second time around it's totally different. I'm exhausted being pregnant and being with DD all day. But when I express this to DH, ask him to get home early or help out he gets all passive aggressive and implies I have it easy being at home and there are women at work pregnant and they can manage so why can't I. At the beginning I sucked it up and thought ok he has a point, I'm not one to act like the world is ending because I'm pregnant, but now that I'm almost 8 months and the back pain is getting really bad I'm getting fed up of his attitude. I don't expect to be pampered or babied but a bit of understanding wouldn't go astray. When I ask him to rub my feet he grumbles that no one ever rubs his feet. I just want to punch him. Am I expecting too much? Is this normal? Am I just hormonal? Should I suck it up or does he need a good kick up the butt?