This has probably been written about several times before but i don't have the energy to search thru all the other posts. PLease grab a coffee and a slice of cake as this is going to be a long post!
My son is three next month (march) and i am having a lot of issues with his behaviour.
Behaviour: E is a very active boy (and i am not exagerating ) he has a lot of trouble focusing on one task for longer than 25 seconds (i have timed him out of interest). He is constantly bouncing from one activity to the next with out ever seeming interested or focused on what is happening, i try to help him engage in the planned activity but fail every time. we spend a lot of time outside riding bikes, playing on the tramp or just running around climbing or swimming at the pool.
He has a 6yr old sister who is really not enjoying spending time with him as it always results in her in tears because E has either hit, bitten, kicked or hurt her in some way. (yes i know his sister is no angel but she is more of a yeller than a hitter)
His first reaction when faced with conflict is to growl and tense up then the fists come out and its on!
We have arranged for a thinking chair to be placed in the laundry for both E and his sister to use when we are faced with needing to tell the off, the chair works for Es sister but fails terribly with him. I am constantly having to place him back on the chair whilst wearing full body armour to protect myself from him. he back chats telling us to get on the thinking chair and has recently started telling us to 'shut up'.
I had enough one day and smacked him (was a compete shock to me and him) but it did nothing at all.
E has delayed speech but has improved a lot and we are working with a speech path to fix his issues. I don't feel his speech is really any part of his behaviour. E is really stubborn and to get him to listen to requests is a major task. he has enough language skills to get his message through.
He eats a fairly clean diet and most snack items are home made. so if it is diet related im not sure where to start in ruling items out.
I need help and i dont know where to turn to. I am a qualified childcare worker and in 9yrs of working i havent experienced a child this bad that hasnt been diagnosed with a mental/behavioural issue.
is some one able to help me??