When I was a kid, we were allowed to have a birthday party every second year. On the other years, we just had a family dinner or did something small. I don't think kids need to have a big party every year, as long as their birthday is acknowledged and celebrated.
Although having said that, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a party every year if that's what you want to do. The only thing I don't get, is parents who spend a fortune and hold a massive event for their child's birthday before they are even old enough to know it's their birthday First birthday we did a bbq in a park with room for all the cousins and other kids to play, and invited extended family. I thought that was a decent size celebration for a kit that wouldn't even remember it, but then we had people asking why we didn't even give our poor child the opportunity to do a 'cake smash' lol, I didn't even know that was a thing at the time :P
Last edited by VicPark; 16-02-2016 at 18:09.
Like you, I do resent my parents for things, but I was thinking about things today, and even though we didn't have a lot of birthday parties, our birthdays were always special as kids. I don't have a good relationship with my mum, we just don't get along and aren't speaking at the moment, and I haven't spoken to my father for ten years. I resent them more so for not really thinking about us as kids by ripping us out of school, time out of time, think I went to like 12 schools, and we were stuck in the middle of a terrible divorce. In a way they taught me how not to raise my kids. I would love to spoil my kids and spend heaps on them every birthday, but it's important to me that they appreciate what they do get and carry that into adulthood. I don't want to raise children who think they are entitled to stuff. That's just me.
I'll just add you all have better memories than me. I have no idea how many parties I had as a kid. I just organise them because I actually enjoy them!
I think it's the overall childhood that counts. I didn't have any birthday parties as a kid. My first party was when I was 21 and worked so paid for it myself.
I have no resentment towards my parents at all. Growing up we didn't have money and I am from a big family. When it was our birthday we got some extra pocket money and were happy with that.
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