My first was very much planned
number 2 is a bit of both worlds. we were ttc and had been for well over 12 months so we *gave up* trying. We just done our own thing and one day i just had a gut feeling so got some tests and tested the next morning (day beforeaf due) and there was a faint line. We were very shocked it happened after so long when we weren't focused on timing things or worrying about it at all.