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    Default 3.5 year old won't sleep in his room

    My son, 3.5 will not sleep in his bed/room. Cries/screams/has a breakdown when I try to get him into his room, we lay in his bed and read a story, he is happy, the minute I get up is when it starts, and it's 2 - 3 hours of non stop up and down trying to get him back to his room!! I have tried everything, I sit outside his door so he can see me while he falls asleep, I leave a light on, I leave TV on, I have even offered bribes, NOTHING is working!!
    His dad works away and when he is home he goes straight to bed (when his dad puts him to bed, same night routine...)
    What tricks worked for you?

    One tired mumma!!

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    Can u lie with him until he falls asleep then sneak out? Then progressively try to get him to fall asleep on his own.

    A few months before my ds 4th birthday i started talkinh to him about how he was growing up and a big boy now so he didnt need me to sleep with him. I would sit with him for 5min but slowly shortened that until I was able to leave after a kiss good night and cuddle. I also bought him a cuddle toy. He has a night light that switches off after 20min.

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    DS was a bit the same. We moved shortly before his 3rd birthday (we have moved a lot but hopefully will stay here for 2+ years) and I bought him a cars bedspread and made a big deal about it being his big boy bed (its a double bed).
    We have toys in his room in storage boxes but don't play in there. I have a sheepskin rug on the floor and after the bath we go in and sit on the floor and read for about 30min I then lay with him until he goes to sleep - since he has stopped napping this usually only takes 15min and then I leave. He was waking in the middle of the night so now before I go to sleep at around 11pm I move him back on to his pillow (he moves so much) and kiss him goodnight and pull the blankets up and he rolls over and goes to sleep - kind of stirring him awake and sending him in to the next sleep cycle - not sure of the science but I read an article and it works for us! He is finally staying asleep in his bed from 7pm - 8am IF he wakes in the night I go in and lay with him. I know its not ideal but honestly it is just the quickest and easiest way for me to put him back to sleep.

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    Yep I have tried this too, and he just won't sleep while I'm in there lol...I can lye in there for an hour and fall asleep myself and he will just stay awake, I have even tried later bedtime in case I was putting him to bed too early, nope...it used to work and then one day he just stopped - same as he used to go to bed easy peasy and now he doesn't, sometimes he even dry reaches at the fact I am putting him to bed (all for attention I know) but it's driving me nuts lol!

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    Yes....I want advice....my son is just used to sleeping with us. He will sleep in his room but eventually during the night he will end up in our bed.

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    We lay down with our DS until he goes to sleep. Once we sneak out he usually sleeps through. Everyone gets more sleep this way and no tears at bedtime.

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    My DS has changed up his sleep routine a number of times. We just roll with it!

    The current routine is letting him fall asleep in our bed, then transferring him to his own bed. Thankfully he's a solid sleeper so he generally stays in there all night.

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    my first is almost 6, I give up. he sleeps in my room lol Ive tried many times to boot him to no avail

    my 2.5 yo sleeps in his own bed all night long

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    I lie with my 2yo then sneak out. I've just started moving to a chair next to her bed. Some nights it takes two hours.

    My advice is wear him out. Run him ragged all afternoon. Then try essential oils to relax him at bed time. Ride it out as long as it takes for him to fall asleep.


 

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