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    I would only ever direct that phrase to someone trolling on social media. Those people literally do need to get off their computer and get a life.

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    I wouldn't have used it in that context, but I guess if your mil wasn't really a hands on mum, she's thinking the mum should be doing something more useful with her time.
    I would only use the term if someone was constantly judging/gossiping about someone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Degrassi View Post
    I agree it was odd.

    I can only guess that she thinks that the parent should have better things to do
    no offense to your mil but it sounds like she's vaguely jealous?? that's what I'd get out of a comment like that.

    I don't think most people would even notice a mum helping out her kid in a public place, it's just moving scenery. it must've got her attention and affected her enough to comment.

    an odd comment given the circumstances.

    I don't really hear get a life very much. nor do I really use it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    no offense to your mil but it sounds like she's vaguely jealous?? that's what I'd get out of a comment like that.
    Yeah, it's possible that seeing that mother doting on her own child made her feel insecure about her own parenting style.

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    This reminds me of when my DP was having a conversation with some ladies at work about a particular popular show and one of them asked a lady in the room if she watches said show to which she replied "no, I have a life" and walked off. Everyone was like, huh?

    I think the only people who need to "get a life" are the ones who spend theirs making others feel like crap or spread rumours, etc.

    Don't really see how the scenario described would warrant a response like that. Sounds like MIL might have an inflated sense of self importance, perhaps?

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    I can only imagine that comment might be remotely valid if the girl obviously did not want or need her mums help but the mum was overly cautious.

    I personally would not say that in that context.
    Similar to pp I would think someone should get a life if they were causing trouble and causing harm to others.

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    I have heard it used. And used it myself. But not to a parent spending time with their child . That's just a bit wierd.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuppet View Post
    I would never use that term. To me it always sounds mean spirited or bitter.

    I have heard people use it before - and its usually in situations where there's resentment towards the target of it (i.e. someone's a bit jealous/guilty and throws around that term to make themselves feel better).
    Not always, I've used it before in response to someone saying something negative to me or something that is none of their business.

    Say for example say a colleague kept on harping on to another about how bad her parenting was in respect to how much to they let their kids watch and the colleague for Jack sh*t of this person constantly criticising something not that important and none of their business, they would just tell them to get a life.

    I've never heard it used with a jealous undertone / *****y, just more of a defence or response to a busy body or gossiper.

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    I guess there's a difference depending on whether someone says it as an observation e.g. 'that person fussing over her toddler really needs to get a life' and saying it as a response to what someone has said to you that's insulting e.g. 'I can't believe you packed that for your child's lunch?!' 'Oh, get a life.'

    One is being judgemental and mean, and the other is trying to deflect a judgmental/mean comment made towards them. I don't like the first, but can totally understand using it in the second.

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    The context your MIL used it in makes her sound very narcy and judgy.

    Is she normally like that? Maybe she regrets being so hands off when 'she had her time' and seeing other parents be hands on triggers her and stirs up odd emotions.

    There is a time and a place for that saying, like mentioned when people are bullying and trolling on the internet. The saying definitely applies to them. But in your MIL's case, no.... sounds like she needs to get a life and stop being judgmental with others?


 

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