Gosh I'm so tired and emotional this morning. So I've had sleep issues on and off with 7 month old DD since she was born. Started off as terrible catnapping but ok night times (2-3 feeds straight and back to sleep). Day sleeps settled around 5 months which was great and nights got better where we were down to 1 wake up overnight. I had 2 weeks where she even slept 7pm-5/6am straight and then back down til 7:30am.
This all changed just before xmas. She started waking all night long (5-6+ wakings) and staying awake sometimes 2+ hours, feeding 3-4 times. I reduced the feeding to twice a few weeks ago but still struggling with her waking every couple of hours or hourly and had been on waiting list for sleep school/mother baby unit for a month. We got a call on Monday for a vacancy for a 3 night stay and last night was the first night.
They're telling me that we put her to bed too early (6:30-7:30pm). She 'chose' her bedtime when she was a couple of months old and it's never been an issue. They said it's too early and will cause early wake up (never been a problem she usually would wake around 7:30am). So last night they get me to put her to bed at 9pm. And their solution is just to feed her if she wakes 3-4 hourly overnight. So I fed her at 1am then she woke at 5 she didn't seem hungry but they told me to feed her which woke her right up. Their solution then was to get her up for the day. At 5:30am. So they think a great success is her staying up til 9pm (um when do I get a break?) and feeding 3-4 hourly overnight then getting up at 5am. I'm sorry but I cannot cope with that.
I think this is just a fragile vent. I don't need to hear that's what babies are like that's what parenting is. I knew this would be hard but I am sooooo freaking tired right now and yes if I knew it was going to be this relentless I would not have had 2 years of fertility treatment and ivf to be here.
I'm in tears and DH has called in sick to work to come be with us for the day which just makes me feel guilty as I know it's not a great time for him to be off work. I was hoping this would be just what we needed to get back on track so I could get more than 3hrs sleep at a time but now I feel they're just going to tell me I'm being unreasonable. It's so hard when it feels like everyone else's baby sleeps 10-12 hours straight honestly they have no idea how effing awful this is 😢