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    Default If you could turn back time to change only one thing...

    What would it be? I'd have pushed harder for my procrastinating DH to get a proper qualification work wise so we wouldn't be under so much financial stress. I can earn a good wage but only work part time as that's what we've chosen but it is stressful and he earns decent but it's not secure. I'd also have had a bigger gap in DD and DS1 as that was honestly one of the hardest periods of my life. So that was two actually but you get the idea...!
    ETA : DH also says this is the one thing he'd change just ao I don't seem like an ungrateful *****😬😬
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    Default If you could turn back time to change only one thing...

    Deleted. You should never post on bubhub at 415am, no good ever comes of it
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    Without a doubt I'd go back and not have sex on the day I fell pregnant, it was just horrible timing to get pregnant and have a baby.
    ...I do rather like DS so it'd be even better if embryonic diapause could happen in humans like it does in kangaroos - where the embryo stays dormant in the uterus until the timing is right for a baby! That would be cool :-P

    That or change my major in uni, I only discovered I had an amazing aptitude for something both really fun and useful/employable the year after graduating.

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    I have two:

    * Different course at uni
    * Not marry exdh

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    Not tell ex FOB I was pregnant 😞 I'll probably get flamed for that. But when the child of that relationship tells you as an adult, that you shouldn't have worked so hard at making sure he had a relationship with his dad. That in fact he would have been better of if I hadn't. Well let's just say I haven't recovered from that. Not sure I ever will.

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    Different course at uni. Actually would have been better if I didn't go to uni at all and picked up a trade instead.

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    Try for another baby sooner, I assumed that as I fell so easily with DS it would be easy again but age caught up with me

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    I maybe would go back to tell myself to do what I really truly wanted to do and not choose the safe option. But, I also wouldn't, because I believe any changes would lead to a totally different life outcome and I'm actually really happy right now with life. Can't believe I actually wrote that, but it's true, 38 and I'm feeling pretty settled and authentically me.

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    I honestly have a hard time trying to think of one thing.
    Without the abusive ex, I would've never run and started working where I was, would've never needed to have a night off, would've never met hubby etc etc etc.
    Maybe change what and when I spent money... having some savings would be nice, and back when I had money I was a big spender :/

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    What would I change? Let me count the ways....

    I kind of fell into my job by accident, and once there I was pushed by many people to get university qualifications which I duly did. Trouble is, it's not in something I enjoy doing. I so wish I'd chosen a different path.

    Now that I'm stuck in my 40's in IVF hell, I really regret not having a child in my younger years. My home town had a high rate of single young mothers and I used to think 'Why didn't you just wait til you were settled and financially secure?' Now I wish I'd done the same.

    Food. Much less of it, over a long period of time. I should have set myself up on a good food and exercise program when I was younger. I didn't, and gosh it's hard to catch up on lost time.

    About ten ex boyfriends who really were a waste of my time and worry. I should have set my bar WAY higher when I was younger.

    Money. I was never taught to save, and I had a natural inclination to spend! Bad combo.


 

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