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    Seriously, I can't complain about my DH, he is bloody amazing and we definitely have a 50:50 spilt of work around the house and with the kids- it's not all the same stuff (I do dishes, he does rubbish, I clean loos and he does the showers etc) but it works.

    To be honest, and this is not a judgement of anyone else, just a personal view - I wouldn't stand for anything less. We have a partnership and in order for that to work there needs to be equality.

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    He DOES do the following:
    All outside work (we have 84 acres)
    Some cooking (he did more of it when we both worked F/T, less now that I'm a SAHM)
    Washing (and hangs it out)
    Takes out rubbish & recycling (so do I)
    Dishes (but mostly I do the dishes and he helps dry them)

    I am home full time and DP works in a very physical job, so I don't expect him to do all the housework. He probably does more than listed above but that's just what comes to mind. The main things he doesn't do that I do is stuff like vacuum, mop, clean the shower & toilet and fold clean washing.

    When I'm in hospital with DD for her chemo DP keeps on top of the washing but he doesn't put it away, I just do that when I get back. He does the basics to get by until I get home but that's it. He keeps the house tidy at least so the rest I don't mind. My DD is the messiest member of the household (4yo, leaves stuff lying about constantly), so while we are away for her chemo the house stays pretty clean.

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    I guess he does everything house chore wise.

    The only thing he doesn't do at all regarding our household chores is the accounting. But I'm an accountant so I happily oblige ;-)

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    Honestly he seems to go through phases. Where he will help out like he's trying to get into heaven and then other weeks he doesn't do anything except go to work.

    The absolute only job that I never do that he does always do without asking or complaining is taking the bins out. We live up the worlds steepest drive way and I have done the bins once and it did not end well so he does that.

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    My DH works 50+ hours a week so i dont expect much at home; i ask him to do child related chores including cooking dinner, tidying kitchen, bathing, changing kids, play with them, brush teeth, do school runs or daycare runs and swimming lessons etc so i dont have to take the baby out etc.
    If he was home more id expect more but he's not

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    Default What does your DH/ DP do and not do?

    My DH will bath DD on the nights he's home (he exercises 2 or 3 nights a week), he'll cook dinner on the odd occasion, washes the dishes maybe once a fortnight, puts away his folded washing, helps me make the bed, mows the lawn and will vacuum if I beg him. He does actually get up and feed the dog in the morning and makes our DD breakfast and he'll make me a coffee.

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    We have more traditional roles than most. I am a sahm and I run the house and do most of the inside housework. Dh does all the outside and builds our house. He will help with anything if I ask. I can go away for a week or two and he does it all. I often say he makes a better housewife than me.

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    Does:
    -runs his own business(es)
    -will have the kids anytime i need/want a break
    -hangs out/brings in/folds/puts away washing
    -almost all dishes
    -cooks
    -cleans kitchen
    -mops
    -puts on robot vacuum cleaner
    -lawn & garden
    -deals with most car-related stuff
    -puts bins out
    -does equal share of bath/bedtime
    -cleans up after dinner
    -makes breakfast every morning
    -deals with more than half of night-wakeups & resettling with our bub
    -deals with bills etc.

    doesn't:
    -put his clothes in the dirty washing
    -wash clothes (doesn't want to get told off for doing it wrong)
    -put my clothes away (doesn't know what goes where)
    -walk the dog despite promising he will
    -keep track of the day-to-day running of the household (who needs what, when, appointments etc.)
    -clean the bathroom

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    DH does 100%:

    Mows lawns
    Takes out bins
    Kills spiders and bugs
    Clears back yard
    Baths the kids (well I have to now bath DD as she won't let him do much for her at the moment it has to be me)
    Gets kids up every morning and gets them breakfast (other than Sunday's when he plays golf)
    Irons his shirts (unless he's desperate and I'm home to do a few shirts)
    DH helps with the following ad hoc if it hasn't been done by me. I never have to ask him to, he just does things on a needs basis:

    Puts washing on
    Folds washing
    Packs and unloads dishwasher
    Washes dishes
    cleans the toilet and bathrooms
    Vacuumes
    Mops
    food shopping (with me)


    He never / rarely (1-2 times a year):

    Cooks
    Shops by himself
    Buys the kids clothes and shoes
    Packs the kids bags for child care / kindy / grand parents house / going out anywhere

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    My dh
    -goes to work (in a job he hates)
    -bought a place without a lawn to mow
    -cooks on the bbq
    -will take the bins out if I ask him to
    -will pick up toys when I put the girls to bed (I need to remind him)
    -will watch the girls for an hour on weekends so I can nap
    -gives me money when I run out

    He's washed up a handful of times when asked or wants a r00t.
    Seriously that's it.
    He has a degree but can't figure out how to use the microwave or washing machine

    But I knew that when I married him so my fault really

    eta: he seriously could not survive without me. Doesn't know where anything is, what we own, how to pick the right fruit and veg from the shops, what bills we have, or even where his clothes or keys are most mornings
    I told DH he was the laziest of all the husbands on my baby forum.
    He replied that he wasn't the laziest but the smartest, as he married me, and that everyone on forums LIE about everything.

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