@Mamasupial - studies have shown metformin can help all women with Pcos and breasfeeding hun, i am not insulin resistant either but I am still on it for ttc. I love your idea of having a back up plan though hun and your friend is very kind to offer. Its great your partner knows your friend that should help, hopefully he comes round to the idea.
I have not used it donated milk, but would highly recommend getting in touch with an IBCLC. Our local IBCLC helped a woman in our community feed with an SNS & donated milk for 12 months! Amazing!
I too saw a LC before I had bub, as i was anticipating problems (inverted nipples), and while it turned out not to be that helpful for me, i would recommend it so you can get some good initial advice and feel a bit more prepared.
I haven't used donor milk, but i think the babies of donor and mother should ideally not be too far apart in terms of age if possible, as BM changes over time -ie milk for a 12mth old is v different to milk for a 1mth old.
Good luck with all of your options ☺
I hadn't thought about the age thing... My friend that offered to donate, her daughter is a few months older than my daughter.
well partner said he would be extremely uncomfortable with donated milk and would really prefer I use formula instead of it comes down to it
Don't get too ahead of yourself. You may never need it. Also my DH prob would have said that while I was pregnant (especially with our first) but sometimes people feel differently when the baby who needs it is right in front of them. Start calling cows milk 'cows breast milk' and he might get the idea that if its not your milk then it is milk from another breast so it may as well be the best suited to baby! Good luck. X
I agree Hun, you may not need it. I only fed DD for 4 months and I had trouble weaning DS and fed him for 14 months.
It's good you've had the discussion now so park it for now and bring it up again later.
I must admit personally I wouldn't use donor milk as I see no issue with formula and have no guilt about using it with DD.
How you feed Bub is a joint decision and your DHs feelings are just as relevant, so if you're asking him to keep an open mind, perhaps you can look at why you don't want to use formula. If it's guilt about not feeding possum, perhaps you can work through those feelings with your careers during your pregnancy.
I hope you come to a conclusion with your DH and hopefully it won't even be a decision you need to make
He did say if I felt really strongly to get some info for him. He also said that it probably won't change how he feels. He'd prefer formula as he cant control what others put in their bodies before giving milk and thinks collecting etc would become very inconvenient.
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