+ Reply to Thread
Page 4 of 6 FirstFirst ... 23456 LastLast
Results 31 to 40 of 53
  1. #31
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    10,291
    Thanks
    3,115
    Thanked
    6,303
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Gentoo View Post
    It extends beyond swimming pool change rooms, to a problem with public toilets in general. As a mum of two boys, I've already wondered how we'll address this when they're older, but still not old enough for me to be comfortable letting them go in to public toilets by themself. At the moment, the only solution I can see is that they'll have to use the disabled toilets.
    I worry as well but my girlfriend when her son was about 7 let him go into the men's toilets by himself when they were out at shopping centres or restaurants but she literally stood out the front of the men's room and spoke to him the whole time ( literally just general chat like what do you want for dinner ect) and they had a "password" if he felt ever felt unsafe - I used to think how embarrassing she was .... Until I had DS!!

  2. #32
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,280
    Thanks
    665
    Thanked
    651
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I agree with PP. It's about choosing the best of two evils. The safety of our little boys is more important than the desire of our little girls not to have boys in the changeroom. And visa versa if dad is taking girls to the pool.

    However, I do think parents need to teach their kids about changeroom etiquette young. It is unacceptable to stare at other people. Eyes against the wall.

  3. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Sally1981 For This Useful Post:

    Californication  (10-02-2016),Gentoo  (10-02-2016),PomPoms  (10-02-2016),VicPark  (10-02-2016)

  4. #33
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,003
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default No Parenting Rooms at Swimming Centre

    Deleted. Posted by 2 year old.

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    DarcyJ  (10-02-2016),VicPark  (10-02-2016)

  6. #34
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    4,222
    Thanks
    894
    Thanked
    3,218
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    It may be selfish, (although I don't think anyone does it with that attitude), but if it keeps my child safe I don't care. I would rather have my 8 year old in the female change room with me where people might be uncomfortable, than in the male room alone and get attacked.
    No one is saying you have to send a boy into the male changerooms to get attacked. But you can certainly choose not to bring them into the female changerooms, where they don't belong.

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to CMF For This Useful Post:

    PomPoms  (10-02-2016)

  8. #35
    Join Date
    Sep 2014
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    2,841
    Thanks
    1,819
    Thanked
    1,421
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    No one is saying you have to send a boy into the male changerooms to get attacked. But you can certainly choose not to bring them into the female changerooms, where they don't belong.
    And change them where?
    A CHILD belong with their parent- no matter what the gender of a room may be.

  9. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to DT75 For This Useful Post:

    Californication  (10-02-2016),GlitterFarts  (10-02-2016),Ngaiz  (10-02-2016),Sally1981  (10-02-2016),sunnyflower  (10-02-2016),Tinkers  (10-02-2016)

  10. #36
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,280
    Thanks
    665
    Thanked
    651
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    And change them where?
    A CHILD belong with their parent- no matter what the gender of a room may be.
    That's what I was thinking. Girls get privacy and boys have to either get changed alone in a room full of adult men or in public? That's not reasonable.

    I also feel uncomfortable about the message this sends. It's a clear message that girl bodies are somehow more sacred and private than boy bodies.

  11. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Sally1981 For This Useful Post:

    Californication  (10-02-2016),DT75  (10-02-2016)

  12. #37
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    4,222
    Thanks
    894
    Thanked
    3,218
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    And change them where?
    A CHILD belong with their parent- no matter what the gender of a room may be.
    Didn't you say you changed your SK by the side of the pool? Or you can change in the car, or at home.
    All sucky options IMO, yes, but again, why do you feel you can take away the girls option just because the boys don't have a good one?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sally1981 View Post
    That's what I was thinking. Girls get privacy and boys have to either get changed alone in a room full of adult men or in public? That's not reasonable.

    I also feel uncomfortable about the message this sends. It's a clear message that girl bodies are somehow more sacred and private than boy bodies.
    I find it the absolute opposite actually- that girls are not important enough to have their own privacy respected, and that boys are allowed to just waltz in at any time to a room of naked girls. Can you really not see that?

    I know it's not fair that boys have a good option. But you can't just take away the girls option just to 'make it even'. That's just silly.

  13. #38
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,280
    Thanks
    665
    Thanked
    651
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Didn't you say you changed your SK by the side of the pool? Or you can change in the car, or at home.
    All sucky options IMO, yes, but again, why do you feel you can take away the girls option just because the boys don't have a good one?



    I find it the absolute opposite actually- that girls are not important enough to have their own privacy respected, and that boys are allowed to just waltz in at any time to a room of naked girls. Can you really not see that?

    I know it's not fair that boys have a good option. But you can't just take away the girls option just to 'make it even'. That's just silly.
    It's not just to make it even. It is even. I think fathers at the pool should be able to take their daughters into the male changeroom as well. It's an issue or safety for the boys. They need a place where they can get changed with their parent that's not out in the open. And speaking as someone who has no car and has to walk my son home, some people don't have the other options you suggested.

    You talk about girls getting changed and boys 'waltzing in at any time' like that's this terrible thing yet you seem fine with little boys having to change out in the open because they have no other safe option.

  14. The Following User Says Thank You to Sally1981 For This Useful Post:

    Californication  (10-02-2016)

  15. #39
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    4,222
    Thanks
    894
    Thanked
    3,218
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Sally1981 View Post
    It's not just to make it even. It is even. I think fathers at the pool should be able to take their daughters into the male changeroom as well. It's an issue or safety for the boys. They need a place where they can get changed with their parent that's not out in the open. And speaking as someone who has no car and has to walk my son home, some people don't have the other options you suggested.

    You talk about girls getting changed and boys 'waltzing in at any time' like that's this terrible thing yet you seem fine with little boys having to change out in the open because they have no other safe option.
    I think maybe you're selectively reading my posts- I have repeatedly said it is not fine that boys don't have a good option to go with their mums to get changed. When a pool doesn't have family change rooms, it absolutely sucks. It makes it very hard for mums of boys, and it is unfair. All I'm saying is, I don't know why people just automatically take away the girls rights for privacy, which are already in place. It just doesn't make sense.

  16. #40
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    1,280
    Thanks
    665
    Thanked
    651
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I think maybe you're selectively reading my posts- I have repeatedly said it is not fine that boys don't have a good option to go with their mums to get changed. When a pool doesn't have family change rooms, it absolutely sucks. It makes it very hard for mums of boys, and it is unfair. All I'm saying is, I don't know why people just automatically take away the girls rights for privacy, which are already in place. It just doesn't make sense.
    Because at the moment, it is what it is. These places have no family rooms and we need options right now, not once a petition is submitted (or whatever) and they get some built. These are little boys, not teenagers and until these places have family rooms, the only reasonable and safe option is for the boys to go into the female changerooms with their mum.

    And the girls do have privacy. They're in a changeroom full of women and maybe one or two little boys.

  17. The Following User Says Thank You to Sally1981 For This Useful Post:

    Gentoo  (10-02-2016)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Sharing rooms help?
    By Kaileysmum in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 13-04-2015, 22:41
  2. Feeding rooms ... are NOT toilets !!!!
    By BH-KatiesMum in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 14-03-2015, 10:38
  3. where is the best parent rooms you have been to?
    By BH-KatiesMum in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 13-03-2015, 20:32

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Bamboo Lulu
Super soft, fun prints & basics for baby, made from bamboo & organic cotton plus non-toxic wooden toys. • Hypoallergenic - perfect for eczema relief • Everything needed to shop for a baby shower • 10% off + FREE gift with purchase. Use code BUBHUB
sales & new stuffsee all
The Health Hub
Give a new mum a fitness boost for Christmas & New Year. Studio-based, small group training sessions - cardio, strength, core, Pilates & boxing. Choice of 16 hrs per week, flexible-arrival feature - bubs & kids welcome! Gift vouchers available.
featured supporter
Vibe Natural Health
Your natural health care team for fertility, pregnancy, post natal and family health care. Our Naturopaths, Doctors, Osteopaths, Acupuncturists, Psychologists,Nutritionists, Pilates, & Massage specialise in women & children's health and wellbeing.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!