My 6yr old DD came to me recently, quite upset, and said all I ever dream about is the boys in my class. I took a minute to get past my 'oh' and asked, what is it that you dream about them. She replied 'I just want them to love me' and was quite melancholy - which is unusual. She is a sensitive girl, but this was new to me. I ask her if it bothered her and she said 'well - I just really wish it would come true one day'.
It came up again yesterday and I'm just not sure how to address it. I have a wonderful relationship with DH and other men in my life and I see the benefit and happiness that having a great man in my life brings, but part of me wants to say to her - 'you don't need a man to be happy!'. I didn't say this, what I did say was that she has plenty of people (male and female) who love her. This didn't seem to help. I also told her to think about how they treat her and if they are nice/good to her. She said they don't really talk to her at all. I said that's probably pretty normal for boys of that age. I suggested she talk to her brother (7yr old) and said he probably doesn't talk to the girls in his class either. Any other suggestions on how to handle this? Her neediness is what has stumped me. And the fact that it wasn't a boy just any of them! Oh dear