Just writing this to look for some support, people who have been here and a little pep talk really... as well as a chance for me to vent!
My partner and I broke up 3 weeks ago now. We have two gorgeous children together 3 and 7months. We tried very very hard to work through our issues in our relationship including lots of couples counselling however I grew tired of the control and emotional abusive cycles and decided enough was enough. it has left me with some confidence issues and anxiety which I am working hard on to get back to normal. I never pictured myself going down the path of being a single mum of two but I am faced with it now being my best option.
My ex decided he would move into his fathers. I was planning to stay in our area near the beach but then I got a call from my brother telling me that I should move back home with him and my mother to save money. I asked a couple of times if they were sure about us moving in as we don't exactly slot in quietly anywhere but they both assured me it would be fine. So we broke our lease and started shifting to our parents. I am also heading back to uni this year to do my nursing degree so I figured it would be super smart to save money and gain support where ever I could. I spent one night at mums but my brother cracked it at the noise my eldest made when I tried to get him into bed. The poor little thing had been ripped our of his comfort zone and out of his routine so I don't blame him. The next morning mum asked me to find a new place to live but if I wanted to stay between then I would have to ensure that we kept as quiet as possible at 7pm for my brother. I decided I didn't want myself or my children to feel like we were tip toeing around and that I would leave. I was devastated about the way my brother acted and the lack of compassion from both. My ex asked me to move in with him at his dads until I found a place.
My kids are happy here at my father in laws, my father in law is extremely supportive and awesome with the kids, they love him. He has graciously taken us into his little unit and told me I am welcome to stay as long as I like. My ex and I have still gone through a break up and are obviously still in each others faces so in this cramped little space things are uncomfortable to say the least.
My belongings are scattered between various family members garages while I hang out in limbo!
I am dying to get my own place back down at the beach. My ex is being so negative about it constantly criticizing the houses I look at, telling me I wont cope with two children on my own and that I wont be able to afford it. I'm trying to block it out but I cant help but worry about well... surviving. I'm slowly organising all my funds through centrelink and trying to find a property that isn't a dive or that isn't too expensive.
Mum has also been trying to help out wherever she can whether it be financially to get me by while I wait for everything to process or just someone to talk to
Anyways just looking for some cheerleaders. Would love to hear some other single mumma's stories and how they got through it all!