So there is a boy ds1 goes to school with whom he isn't close to, they get along and play together at school which I think is enough. The mother keeps insisting on playdates in which I have agreed to on occassions although ds1 isn't overly fussed. Playdates are usually at our place, only once have they been at the other boys place as their house is very untidy and smelly as ds put it and he said he didn't want to go there again. The mother doesn't work and has 4 boys all with speech and learning problems and from what I can gather her boys don't make friends easily and she initiates playdates for her boys alot to the point other mums have got fed up. I however have up to recently allowed the playdates and have been tolerant. Over the school holidays the mum text me requesting a playdate and I declined (first time ever I have said no) and explained it was school holidays and dh and I were juggling the boys taking time off alternately at this time and the boys were with a friends mum for part of that week til I got home from work then she would go to work and I look after her kids with mine etc and I was studying too. She didn't take it well and has been ignoring me since and putting little narky posts on facebook which I know are directed at me. Then low and behold she says hello to me on Thursday at school and on Friday there is an invite in ds's bag for her sons bday party, I'm thinking that's why she started talking to me so ds would go to her sons party. However ds has cubs Monday's after school so can't go so I declined telling her that and now the facebook posts have started again. I'm really over it. Her son isn't a good friend of ds's, being sociable at school is enough. I don't want to be rude but i've decided there won't be any further playdates.
Anyone experienced simular and how did you handle it?