@Precious40 sorry to hear, hope tomorrow goes ok.
@winsor CONGRATULATIONS You are officially UTD! So excited for you
@Precious40 although I'm sure it's not the news you wanted to hear, I'm glad you finally have an answer and will be able to move forward after tomorrow. I hope it all goes smoothly for you from here.
Thanks for all your awesome support today girls - I didn't have to see the ex at all (skinny from living on coffee & cigarettes *cough*), they kept us in separate rooms thank goodness, although I don't think that happens when we go to court in a couple of weeks. It was really hard to tell how it went today, she spent WAY more time in with the report writer than my DH and I think DH got thrown some curve balls he wasn't ready for so his answers might not have been that great. I hope he got his point across though because there's no doubt DSS was coached to the MAX about what to say in there :-( Anyway, hopefully the judge will sort through the truth to find out what is in DSSs best interests.
The report writer only talked to me for five minutes and wanted to know if I had any experience with children (that is the ex saying that I can't be a good step-mother because I don't have children myself) and although he said up-front that it doesn't carry any weight with him whatsoever, he said he had to ask about my health and miscarriages because it was in the affidavit. But honestly it was five minutes if that and felt very superficial... So we'll see, it felt pretty awful all-round & I'm really frustrated that we've got such good reasoning and information & I don't think it really came out today in the appointment. Hopefully the lawyer will do a good job when it gets to court...
AFM - I should be ovulating any day now, so I'm on the look out for EWCM and in the immortal words of Wazza will be having "mad rooties" for the next few days! Go the natural pregnancy!!!
Last edited by Summer; 09-02-2016 at 17:42.
I'm glad things went ok today Summer. if they have to be in same room later, it sounds like she'll probably get all wound up with him there. whereas your DH might remain calm. that might come across to the judge?
Thanks guys - way to hit my vulnerable spots though - making a big issue of the fact that I "don't know how to parent because I'm not a mother myself" and "due to my miscarriages and poor health we will be putting undue pressure on DSS in our emotional household".
FFS, thank goodness I've hauled myself up into a pretty good place or those things would have dropped me a while ago. Now I'm definitely "keeping my dignity intact & head held high" while she takes pot shots at me in an effort to stop DH & DSS spending quality time together. Lovely lady, WTF was DH thinking when he got involved with her?
Congrats winsor! Very happy for you
Sorry for crappy outcome precious40 all the best for your surgery
Saw my "therapist" again today he recommended a book called " the happiness trap" seemed to think it would be helpful to me so I thought I would pass it on. Supposed to help give you the coping mechanisms to deal with life's disappointments, don't know if it is as therapeutic as wine or mint slices but we'll see
Summer you do have experience with children anyway - you look after DSS when he's at yours. that'd probably upset her, but it is still true so she should acknowledge it
@Windsor congratulations!!! Brilliant news so happy for you!!
Omg @Precious40 you poor thing having surgery tomorrow you've had a rough few weeks now. Hope it goes smoothly. Is it day surgery? Look after yourself.
@Bongley will keep you posted on the family situation. Am going to role play/go over different responses I may hear from them with counselor tomorrow. Will give you some tips!!
@Summer good you didn't have to see the skinny jealous cow and good you escaped with only 5 minutes questions!!
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