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    I have a relative who I don't think her nearly 4 year old son is quite right.
    She is burying her head in sand about it and hoping it would go away. I know it's not normal behaviour and I think it's more than just naughtiness.

    Some little things I've picked up on:

    - Very poor communication skills

    - poor skills in numbers/ colours/ shapes recognition ( aside from poor communication he'll have trouble even pointing out something blue as an example)

    - wild tantrums / melt downs

    - figity and hitting and kicking things

    - can get overwhelmed say at Christmas lights, or at the shops

    - has had hearing tested and that's normal

    - doesn't like being dirty, even a spec of ice cream on his top will cause a meltdown

    - will listen and understand but chooses not to

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    autism?

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    How often do you see the child? I know my child is quiet and doesn't say much around other people (especially people he doesn't like) however he let's rip with conversations etc around myself and DH. Tantrums and getting overwhelmed etc *can* be normal. Perhaps the parent sees things that you dont?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    How often do you see the child? I know my child is quiet and doesn't say much around other people (especially people he doesn't like) however he let's rip with conversations etc around myself and DH. Tantrums and getting overwhelmed etc *can* be normal. Perhaps the parent sees things that you dont?
    Very regularly, physically once a week, and Skype every other night. So it's not a shyness thing. His daycare have actually requested funding for an extra teacher to come in and help him as he's meant to be at school next year ( kindy this year)

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    autism?
    That's what I'm thinking ( just remembered he likes things in certain ways and orders) and when I've asked if she's talked to a dr about it she gets defensive and states he's not 4 yet he can't be tested until 4. The thing is they're going to have to go public and I know wait lists are long, he's less than 2 months off 4 so if it was me I would have been getting the ball rolling now.
    Honestly if you put my 2 1/2 year old and him together you would think she was older

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    are you worried about this child? I mean it's really up to her as the parent to get the ball rolling. I suspect if you push the issue too hard she wok get very defensive and just start avoiding you

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    I'm worried.
    I don't think it's poor parenting or naughty behaviour I think it's deeper.im worried he's going to fall between the cracks, no way is he ready for kindy let alone school.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    Very regularly, physically once a week, and Skype every other night. So it's not a shyness thing. His daycare have actually requested funding for an extra teacher to come in and help him as he's meant to be at school next year ( kindy this year)



    That's what I'm thinking ( just remembered he likes things in certain ways and orders) and when I've asked if she's talked to a dr about it she gets defensive and states he's not 4 yet he can't be tested until 4. The thing is they're going to have to go public and I know wait lists are long, he's less than 2 months off 4 so if it was me I would have been getting the ball rolling now.
    Honestly if you put my 2 1/2 year old and him together you would think she was older
    Where abouts is she that they can't be tested until 4? My 4 year old ha autism and he was diagnosed at 2.5. (He is a very classic example of it). The earlier the better as you can get on top of therapies sooner. It may not be autism but there are a lot of conditions that can be similar to the untrained eye (GDD for example). You probably won't convince her though. She needs to come to it herself. I kept thinking my son was just quirky and didn't really know much about autism at all, until one day I watched a movie about a man with Aspergers and I kept thinking it was just an adult version of my son on the screen. Once that clicked, I was in the doctors a few days later. She needs to have the a-ha moment, whether it's autism, or a simple speech delay or just a quirky kid, and you pushing probably won't get her there. Sorry 😞 as frustrating as it may be.

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    Also, if he starts school and is definitely not ready, it's likely they will pick it up and make suggestions to her also. Most teachers would have at least some idea what they are looking at.

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    I have no idea where she got the 4 years thing from.
    If it was just speech then I wouldn't be so worried but it's the other little quirks that makes me think it's more

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    Lack of speech can often cause a lot of the other things to surface. Because they have so much to say and no way to get it out so they vent in other ways (violence etc). I have seen a few people go through similar things and once speech improved, a lot of the behaviours improved also. It would be in her best interest to have him looked at though, but it's not a nice jump to make. If she is getting defensive, she might already know and is struggling with it emotionally. I was crushed when I figured it all out and even more so when the words were actually said to me. Perhaps she just isn't dealing very well.


 

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