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    I'm not sure how I would feel. I think I'd be more disappointed than upset. If I was in the situation, I think based on history, I'd expect my parents to be selfish. It sounds like that's all they know how to be.

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    Less upset and more irritated.

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    Yes upset.

    And I would mentally note not to help the parent when they are older and need help. They have done nothing to help you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Yes upset.

    And I would mentally note not to help the parent when they are older and need help. They have done nothing to help you.
    If I was the adult child I would be secretly ****ed but wouldn't say anything. I think it's a little selfish for adults to demand money (especially inheritance) from their parents.

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    Sounds like my dad

    Except he 'promised' to share some funds from a sale of a house but as I did not 'need' money at the time he forgot.

    And then offered to help pay my bro's wedding then after demanded the money back (apparently it was a 'loan').

    So, yes - adult children have the right to be upset. And angry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    If I was the adult child I would be secretly ****ed but wouldn't say anything. I think it's a little selfish for adults to demand money (especially inheritance) from their parents.
    It's not what right or wrong, it's how would you feel. I would feel less inclined to help them when they're old.

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    It does sound like it is a little bit about the money, given the info about being in certain stage of life where money would make a difference. I wouldnt feel bad as the adult child as i have no entitlement to the money anyway and there shouldn't necessarily be an expectation that money will flow to them from their parents.

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    I think so. As you said, it's not about the money, but yet another way they've been selfish. I suppose you would always be hopeful that your parents would change and it would hurt every time that doesn't happen.

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    I think, too, while inheritances aren't something that should be expected, it's hard not to attach emotions to them. I already know that I've deliberately been left out of a very large will (not my parents') and it hurts. I've not done anything wrong, especially given that this person wants to make sure they're still an ******* in death.

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    I wouldn't be upset about the money. It's their money they made it. It there choice where it goes.
    I would be extremely upset if I felt that my parents never made me a priority. If I felt they did care. In saying that it has to be a 2 way street. They need to feel like the kid cares too.


 

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