Hi ladies.. can I ask if you had considered someone you know as an option for egg donor or would if you knew someone? I had just thought I maybe had my head around this but my husband has gone without telling me and asked a friend of ours if she would consider being a donor and she said she would be happy to discuss this with us and she is actually in the middle of a cycle donating to another couple (not friends).. now I am an absolute mess and feel completely under pressure and hubby feels like a monster! I am just not sure I could go with someone I know.. it would be a constant reminder everytime I see her.. Greece appeals to me as it is anonymous but I am sick to my stomach about making the wrong decision..
I visited Dr Nikos at Embryoland earlier in the year. Prior to our visit I only took progynova as well. During our visit I started taking progesterone. We didn't find out the final plan with our donor or when the embryos would be transferred until we were over there, I guess these things can't be 100% planes and you just have to do what's right at the time. Try not to worry and just do what Dr Nikos says, he knows what he is doing - I am now 24 weeks pregnant with our little boy. All the best.
I'm a recent "lurker" on this thread as
o/s egg donation may be our next step, I have done 2 rounds with a known donor here in oz, first cycle pure disaster- none to transfer none frozen
Most recent cycle 1 to transfer and am currently in the TWW ( none frozen)
My donor is a very close friend and I was more than happy to use her as our donor for many reasons - she is an amazing person and mother
She looks similar to me, we have the same job, interests and sense of humour. So I was very comfortable using her eggs, I don't know if I would of been happy if she were just an acquaintance.
Having said that it was also very stressful having to worry about her health and welfare during cycles.
I did say to my FS that if this cycle doesn't work I would prefer an unknown donor next time, at least the o/s clinics organise everything, here you still have to pay for extra scans/tests/ medication/travel costs etc etc
Hope this helps a little
Good luck in your decision
Oh wow MissDa, thank you for sharing your story. Fingers crossed you get a positive result from this transfer! Do you mind me asking if it is much more expensive doing donor IVF with a known donor as opposed to IVF with your own eggs?
The possible candidate is one of my best friends sisters. She is a lovely soul, same hair colour, eyes and similar body type. Very smart.. a perfect candidate really.. She has four children of her own and as she is currently doing a cycle to donate to someone else I would see how she went with egg collection in this cycle.
So, in saying all of the above, why am I so hesitant?! I worry that what if the child looks like her? When I see her it will be a constant reminder? She will be in our lives forever and not that we see her a lot but when we do how will I feel around her and her children...
Hubby called me earlier and broke down for the first time throughout this journey. he has been my rock for the last 12 months but he finally admitted that it is killing him every time he sees a pregnant woman, baby or father and child. He doesn't want to wait until the end of next year when we had planned to go to Greece. I am afraid he has his heart set on this candidate and I had my heart set on Greece...
A friend did use a close friend and are all happy. I just couldnt its a really tough one.
We've now been here for 16 days and even though transfer is tomorrow and no guarantee on the outcome I cannot stress enough how wonderful Dr Nikos and the entire team are here. Couldn't be in better hands.
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