WWYD in my situation?
Ok so I have alot to say as this is a very complex issue but as I am typing this on my phone when l should be sleeping I will keep it brief as possible.
A bit of background. My Dd is 15 and is currently refusing to go anywhere outside until she reaches her goal weight, not an unhealthy weight just a weight that would get her bmi to a healthy weight range, she still needs to loose 5-6kg according to her. I don't think she's fat I think she is normal (she says that that is calling her fat as she knows what I think is normal and that is fat)
I feel the medical system has failed me badly as there just seems to be a serious of stuff ups and this is the end result as I have been trying to get help for so long and no one seems to be able to help in fact some doctors have said some downright damaging things to her.
I first noticed issues with her having body dismophia in year six and since then I have struggled to get any help. Initially it was only a mild thing her not liking her developing body so In year six I organised a social worker from the local council to go to the school and give all the girls a talk about body image.
Since than we have been to see many different doctors/Councillors /mental health nurses ect. She has admitted that she has refused to talk about the real issues with any of them and has only really let us in as to how bad things have become for her.
Recently I have been lied to,called names, had food and laxatives stolen from me, she has just become so unreasonable and very disrespectful and will no longer do what she is told. She has admitted to bing eating, abusing laxatives, throwing up and stealing food over the last year.
Last year She missed the last 5 weeks of school as she suffers with a typical migraine's and had a migraine episode then refused to go back. I wanted to force her to go back to school last year but dh said perhaps she needs a break, as she is suffering mentally. In that time She miss her formal (said she was to fat to go).
Finally (after waiting weeks) she saw a physiatrist last week week he has diagnosed her with extreme social anxiety and says it is a chemical imbalance and has put her on anti depressants and said we should wait 2-3 weeks before she starts school to give the tablets a chance to work. ( this is not the first time with this diagnosis). I believe that social anxiety is a symptom of the real issues. To be fair our latest Dr has only had one session with her so perhaps after more that maybe added to.
My delema is she is starting a new school and last year she missed alot of school and struggled to catch up and that caused anxiety however she still did amazingly well, she was also well and truly above the bands she needed to be in that national testing thing they did in year nine.
I don't want her to fall behind and I think she will stand out more starting late rather than with all the other new year 11 students who are all new as it is a senior collage.
She is refusing to even go outside now so unless I physically make her go out she is refusing to, says she wants to but can't. I really don't think I could make her she is taller than me and did judo for a few years and was bloody good at it too. Also I really don't want to do this, I have three other children and one is still a baby.
There is so much more to this story however I am after some advice on what other hubbers think I should do? Follow Dr advice or try make her go.
Any other suggestions about this whole situation would be appreciated as I really cant take much more of this as I am also suffering with post natal depression