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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    This. I don't think arguing with an old, set in his ways man is going to actually get anywhere. As much as I find the word offensive I don't think calling him out would actually achieve anything.
    Perhaps it might stop and make him think? I hope that when I'm older, I'll be still learning about the ways of the world. If you don't start a conversation then how are people going to stop passing on these attitudes to the younger generation? If it was me, I'd tell him not to use that word in my house. Simple.

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    wow

    I'd be so ****ed and disappointed if my father made such comment

    I guess I'd try to enlighten him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    Well honestly. I'd do nothing. My dad often says things like this. He's old. He says inappropriate stuff frequently. I don't feel the need to chastise my own dad about stuff. Certainly not in this instance.
    And I'd likely upset him which I'm not really into doing.
    Yep....this is my dad too. He's a silly old man but he's the only dad I've got. So, yeah...

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    How old is too old for other people to challenge your views?

    Still arguing with my parents about politics, relationships, raising kids and what not and don't plan to stop because they're too old.

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    Just to clarify my parents wouldn't use that term. I've never heard either of them use anything derogatory like that.

    But. Honestly an off the cuff comment like that I'd probably low ball it and say something similar to loveliveshere. Like "what does a f----t hair cut even look like".

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    Default Wwyd: guest comment **may offend**

    Here's what happened.

    First of all I was speechless for about 5 seconds... Couldn't believe that I heard what I did. I recovered to muster a "you're lucky the boys weren't awake to hear that. That's not very nice - Next time I will put you in the naughty corner."

    My father still more than has his wits about him and this isn't a one off offensive comment. Depending on the flavour of the day he's said similar things about women (especially when Gillard was in power), Asians, Muslims, 'boat people,' anyone who is different from him is in the firing line. He comes out with a corker every now and then. Although I don't think he will ever be cured the episodes would be much more frequent (and probably within earshot of my boys) if I didn't call him out at the time.

    If I wasn't so stunned I probably would have liked to have been firmer in my response..
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    Default Wwyd: guest comment **may offend**

    One off comment ok

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    Well one of my sister's is gay so my dad knows better than to say something like and don't think it would occur to him anyways. He's also been 'raised' by three pretty very open minded girls so either he's scared to say something offensive around us or we've trained him well😉. Not that he never says anything wrong but when he does he gets told to shut up in a nice way.

    Dh's dad was very much like this, would just say random offensive cr@p mostly because I think he thought it was funny. Usually somebody always spoke up (mil, SIL, DH or myself). Didn't start an argument but would make a comment that we didn't appreciate him speaking like that around us.

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    the thing is, my dad can't stand swearing. so I try not to swear when I'm at my parents house. i i respect their preferences whilst under their roof.

    is it too much to expect the same in return? cos the "wah wah wah I'm old and set in my ways" argument gets a bit tired.

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    My dad is still in his 50s. And we frequently argue about politics etc. Beside the fact i dont think he'd use that term, if he did I'd tell him that it was extremely offensive and I dont like it. I dont have an issue calling my parents out on stuff like that.

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