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    I wish I could come on over and give you a hand. im good at babysitting while my daughter sleeps. she is a policewoman, so the shift work can be a real pain. hugs, marie.

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    Default Not sleeping and not coping- help

    Quote Originally Posted by MrsIsMe View Post
    I can completely relate to reading about everyone's babies sleeping through and crying! I also have three older children who were well and truly sleeping through by this stage (16 weeks), bloody sucks being so tired. I said to my husband even if I could have a full nights sleep there isn't enough hours on the clock to make me not tired
    anyway, you're not alone and tomorrow I am going to a day stay hands on settling course run through community health. I am hoping this is my 'fix' lol
    Good luck @MrsIsMe! Let me know how you get on! Xxx

    Thanks for the support everyone, I'm not even sure if I should be even wasting my time trying to "fix" it anyway, maybe I just need some more no doz.....she still is so young.

    Dd1 was horrid until the 6 month mark when I implemented some sleep training and a routine. Still had some bad patches in there though.

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    Keep an eye on the temperature through the night - it can take time to pinpoint the temp changes and bedding requirements. Or chest like I did and use a heater and cooler in the one night.

    Check milk consumption (enough hind milk etc).

    Rule out medical issues.

    Look at day routine - when is bub being fed and put to sleep?

    Look at the sleep environment - is anything different at bedtime then when bub wakes? Music stopped? Temp changed? Bub not being rocked or patted anymore?

    Keep chipping away and reading but try not to stress. It can take ages to pinpoint an issue and it can weeks for a new change or routine to take affect.

    In the meantime grab sleep whenever you can. Stuff the housework. See if your DH can have a day off here or there or alter his hours for a month. Have a wine. Did I say stuff the housework?

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    I feel like a million bucks, we had a better night where she only woke twice!👍so I got 6.5 hours all up last night (shame DH and dd1 got me up at 545am, I usually don't mind as I'm already awake lol).

    2 differences- dd2 had a late nap and therefore an hour or two of fussing before I got her down at 845pm, which is late for her.

    After the first wake up at 12am (3 hour chunk only) I put her down in the swing in the lounge in front of the open door- she felt sweaty and it was still 24 degrees in her room- and she slept for another 4 hours, quick feed then 3 hours not sure if it was the motion or temp change or both

    Even if it all turns to crap again just this one ok night has given me enough to keep going for a little bit longer I wish I felt like this everyday I miss not feeling like cr@p

    Coincidently I got a notification on my phone from the wonder week app she's entering the 4 month regression stage today.......

    VP as for day naps what we do right now really works so I'm loathe to change it- she *Usually* had one long nap that coincides with dd1's, and 3 other short naps that work well with getting showered/dressed, being out in her wrap or pram, and then prepping dinner....when she gets to 6 months I'll work on consolidating naps if it hasn't happened already

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    So good to hear! It's amazing how much and clearer we feel after some sleep x

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    Great night!! Swing may be your new best friend

    we we went to our hands on settling course and have a routine to follow. Nurse took 11 mins to settle him (while I cried!!), felt like forever but really it was only 11 mins! She couldn't resettle him and admitted defeat after 22 mins. She said he needs 'training', so we are working at in cot hands on settling and consistent sleep environment for 7 days and then I go back to chat and decide where to from there.

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    Bit the bullet and the local daycare centre has a 1 day a week vacancy for dd1. We are having a tour tomorrow. Dd1 seems excited by the prospect of "school".


    Sleep has not improved apart from that one night, dd2 is now entrenched in feeding at night to resettle (even if I don't feed her to sleep at beginning of the night). I'm so tired and on the verge of PND, I'm either yelling or crying or both. I cry a lot now and I'm not a cryer usually.

    So just hanging in there and telling myself dd2 is my last.... She's at an awkward age where her sleep is shot but she's too young and small to really do much about it (gentle techniques are getting me nowhere)

    Hopefully dd1 enjoys daycare and I have a day with just bubs and me.

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    That's wonderful news about your DD1. It will give some well needed rest even just that one day.

    As for DD2 massive hugs, just hoping DD2 turns a corner for you soon.

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    Default Not sleeping and not coping- help

    Hey sorry to hear things are still tiring.
    Good on you for putting dd1 in daycare. It's bloody hard with a bub and toddler. Can you up dycare to 2 days? Give you an extra break and make it easier for your dd1 to settle in?


    I know you said you didn't want to mess with the day naps - just wanted to flag that the number, timing and length of bubs day naps *could* be impacting bubs frequent waking at night. Too little sleep and bub is overtired at night which can lead to waking. Too much sleep and bubs not tired enough at bedtime. If bub has the last nap too late then it screws with bedtime. If bub is having lots of little catnaps (instead of long solid sleeps) then bub could be overtired at bedtime which could lead to night wakings.

    Some general ideas for your consideration:
    For a Bub of 14 weeks I would shoot for:
    1. around 4.5 hours sleep during the day
    2. Aim to split total day sleep via 2 x long naps and 1 x Short cat nap.
    3. If you want bub to sleep at 7pm make sure bub is up from the late afternoon cat nap by 5:15.

    I understand routine might not fit in with your current way of running the household chores etc. However it *could* help bub sleep better at night and leave you with bigger time chunks during the day during which you could do chores. Of course there are no guarantees and a choice/risk you will need to weigh up and consider for yourself.

    Happy to provide more specifics on ideas for times etc if needed.
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    Default Not sleeping and not coping- help

    Unfortunately the daycare centre only has one day free. I was lucky to even get that, childcare places are hard to come by in our area, many of my colleagues have struggled to get spots and often put their kids in places suburbs away. I'm optimistic she'll settle ok, she's really grown up and come out of her shell since dd2 was born. If it doesn't work I can always pull her out.

    Dd2 gets the right amount of day time sleep for her age, and I use SOS as a guide for awake windows, she's just a catnapper at the moment and I can't spend ages resettling with a toddler to supervise so I'm rolling with it. She had 4-5 naps a day. I will follow my sleepeasy solution book when she's 4-5 months to help her nap and sleep properly, it worked well for dd1, and it appeals to me as I feed on demand during the day so don't want a strict feed play sleep schedule I'm not strong enough to stick it out.

    Last night was the pits, I thought it couldn't get much worse but it has. It is the 4 month regression though so trying not to get too worked up. I burst into tears when DHs alarm went off at 545 this morning. She's still all smiles this morning though, the little terror.

    DH chewed all his leave up when dd2 was born, and won't chuck a sickie as he's too goody goody lol.

    Just need to keep on swimming.....
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