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    Oh, will she take a dummy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Oh, will she take a dummy?
    No, I bought like a thousand different types of them. Carries on like she's choking lol. I even tried something sweet on them too (desperation 😜) I figured I've gone this far without one (and I removed dd1's during the 4 month regression) so I may as well not bother with a dummy now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    No, I bought like a thousand different types of them. Carries on like she's choking lol. I even tried something sweet on them too (desperation 😜) I figured I've gone this far without one (and I removed dd1's during the 4 month regression) so I may as well not bother with a dummy now.
    Yeah. That was DS. No bottle. No dummy *sigh*.

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    I'm definitely happy to sleep train too when she's older. I was always of the thought do whatever works when she's young as I can fix it later- but unfortunately I haven't figured out anything that works right now.

    She sleeps in a fisher price rock and play sleeper (shaped like a swing, it's fab, you can rock them in it) with a mattress right next to her or in her swing- it doesn't make any difference to her wake ups. I haven't attempted the cot as yet.

    I've tried co sleeping, I'd love to be able to, but I just can't figure how to do it successfully, it never has worked for either child. Plus logistically I can't feed lying down as I'm barely an A cup lol!

    Dd2 is very easy and happy during the day. She catnaps usually for 40 minutes, and if I'm lucky a longer nap in the afternoon. I'm not overly bothered by the naps as dd1 grew out of her catnapping at 6 months, and it's not like I can rest whilst she sleeps any way with a 3 year old lol. She does go down very easy after 90 minutes awake time without a fuss.

    I should consider daycare I know, but I feel so guilty about the changes dd1 has already gone through, I'd feel like I'd abandoned her. Plus money is very tight on maternity leave. I think I'm just too scared to even look into it but DH is happy to try it.

    Thanks for the posts and hugs everyone, it has helped. I know it won't last forever but I just can't see how I can survive another night, let alone a week, or month, or several months..... I feel like I'm being robbed of my chance to enjoy this time.
    I couldn't feed lying down either until DS was around 9 months, he was too small and my boobs were too small and I just couldn't work it out!

    I think trying a co-sleeper bassinet/cot like the bednest may be worth it. That way you're both lying next to each other but in your own space and you may find that you're able to settle her before she actual wakes for a feed or properly wakes you, many times I would hear DS stir and just be able to stay in the position I was in and rest my hand on him and he would stop stirring.

    I totally get where you are coming from with daycare. DS is meant to start at a preschool in September when the baby is a few months old but I've been battling with the decision to put him in a nursery school one or two mornings a week before the baby comes. I actually think he'd really love it but I worry about it being too much change in 6 months, nursery school then a baby then leaving the nursery for the other school. But I really need some time to myself, I've been mothering 24/7 for two years now and it's about to get harder!

    Being that your daughter is three, she may really love going to childcare for a day or two. Can you do half days? She may love the opportunity to go do something that's just for her and learning and playing so it could really end up being win win for both of you.

    I think you may be able to hire bednests in OZ now, I'll quickly Google. By far my most treasured baby item. Or you could side car her cot to your bed?

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Yeah. That was DS. No bottle. No dummy *sigh*.
    DS would only take an avent soothie dummy but it didn't help with the waking. He loved to fall asleep with it but if I tried to put it in through the night he'd seal his mouth shut like he was saying 'I don't want the fake nipple, I want the real one!'

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    Here's a bednest hire link. I know there are similar products that may be cheaper (it's only £70 for us to hire it for 6 months, including a new mattress!) but thought I would still link the info ☺️
    http://birthpartner.com.au/product/bednest-hire/

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Here's a bednest hire link. I know there are similar products that may be cheaper (it's only £70 for us to hire it for 6 months, including a new mattress!) but thought I would still link the info ☺️
    http://birthpartner.com.au/product/bednest-hire/
    That does look pretty amazing!

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    I'm sorry I don't really have any helpful advice, I just want to send you a hug as I totally get what you are feeling. My DD sounds a bit different to your bub but the end result was the same - I was so tired I couldn't contemplate anything and had a toddler as well. Gosh it's hard. I guess I just want to say that it will end (I know you know that) and that light at the end if the tunnel will slowly come into view. I used to take things hour by hour sometimes, just so I didn't have to think about being awake and functioning for a whole day!

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    Oh it sounds exhausting. I remember being so tired I thought I could actually die from exhaustion! Its awful. Im not sure what fits with your parenting style, so will tell you what has worked for me, & you can take it or leave it!
    - I would check for reflux. If you give infant gaviscon, it should relieve any reflux for a short period of time, & is a good 'tester'.
    - make sure the baby is warm enough -add an extra blanket if youre not sure
    - I expressed earlier in the day & then gave the EBM in a bottle at night when my milk was low. Was a lifesaver. Do you feel like she gets a big, full feed in the evening &overnigt?. If bubs has a full belly of milk, she should be dozy and wanting/able to sleep for 3ish hours - if her belly is full & she is still waking, its probably not hunger (so may be wind, comfort, reflux, cold,etc)
    - I googled a 'colic massage' & followed one ofd youtube. It really helped with wind and unsettledness.

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    Those co sleeping cots look awesome there are a few available in Australia. Intact I thought I saw one at big w the other day but it is not on there web page.

    Your 3 year old might like day care. I also had my 3 year old in family day care one day a week. She loved it.

    Feeding laying down can take a bit of even with a D cup and it can hurt my back if I am in the wrong position. My youngest baby (of 4) now ten months has rouble feeding laying down (I Know its her not me lol i've done it three times before). I can't initially feed her to sleep or get her to day sleep laying down but once in bed and she wakes she will feed back to sleep.

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