Hey LMS I totally get what you're saying about being worried something won't work, I felt exactly like that on Monday when our sleep consultant visited. We have gone forward 10 steps and back 8 and forward and back again so magic "fixing". I know there are financial considerations with daycare but I would also class your mental health as much as a priority as food and utilities so try to put that worry out of your head and if you can stretch to another day put her in - 2 days is great for kids anyway because they often feel more settled with 2 or 3 days than a single day. The other day when DS went to daycare and I put DD down and as soon as she went down I slept and we both ended up
sleeping for 3 hours, it changed my whole outlook.
Also just wanted to add keep that positive outlook you have - things will definitely improve!!! It will pass! Big hugs and if you want any info about what we did pm me and I can send you some stuff xx
- things can backfire and get worse at any age
- you can always implement a gentle approach that is age appropriate for whatever age your child is at the time
- waiting longer doesn't necessarily guarantee success as roadblocks can pop up at any age that aren't always solveable via sleep 'training' (I hate that word).. For example my ds2 started having shorter naps during the day around 4.5 months - because he was getting bigger and hungrier. Stopped when solids were /increased around 5.5 months. For us - this involved introducing solids around 5 months. Some parents aren't comfortable with solids this early.
- Depending on the child and time you start waiting *could* make things harder. The longer a habit has been in place (such as aiding to sleep) the harder it can be to break. It only takes a few nights to form a habit however it can take weeks or months to break one. Depending on the age efforts could be futile. The risk of later efforts being futile can somewhat be combatted by introducing a small number of gentle and age appropriate measures before you reach crunch time.
If you don't want the pressure of doing things now and possibly having them fail that's totally understandable. There are some mums on here who can offer great advice on learning to come to terms with sleep hardship.
Last edited by VicPark; 12-03-2016 at 08:27.
@nh2489 don't feel bad. I like to think of it like crying in a car. When you're driving and they're crying for ages and you can't pull over they get over it right? No damage done. Your bubs is fine and loves you and doesn't remember a damn thing
thanks for the tip about waiting if I can. Dd2 is tiny so that plays on my mind a lot too (I'm tiny too). Tbh though my main concern was she's just started rolling yesterday, plus I'd hate to try and give her some consistency yet change it when daylight savings ends (I hate hate hate daylight savings).
I agree with you VP in not waiting too long either. My SIL had a helluva time with her son as she tried a lot later- by this time he was much more vocal and mobile in the cot and had more stamina to fight it. And he was deeply entrenched in late nights/wake ups.
@babyla sorry to here it's not been the magic fix but I'm glad it's really improving for you
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