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    Hey LMS I have read through this thread and am echoing your feelings right now. It must be the age. I can't even imagine doing this with a toddler. So sorry it's been so rough for you. But know you're not alone, knowing I'm not alone is the only thing that gets me through some days. I swear every mum I meet seems to have/have had awesome sleepers and I just feel like 'wtf have I done wrong??' But that is silly. So when I get a minute I jump on here and search sleeping threads and knowing that this is normal and it WILL pass gets me through another day. And helps me not to kill my D-F'ing-H who says all the wrong things when I'm in melt down mode xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by GemJane View Post
    Hey LMS I have read through this thread and am echoing your feelings right now. It must be the age. I can't even imagine doing this with a toddler. So sorry it's been so rough for you. But know you're not alone, knowing I'm not alone is the only thing that gets me through some days. I swear every mum I meet seems to have/have had awesome sleepers and I just feel like 'wtf have I done wrong??' But that is silly. So when I get a minute I jump on here and search sleeping threads and knowing that this is normal and it WILL pass gets me through another day. And helps me not to kill my D-F'ing-H who says all the wrong things when I'm in melt down mode xx
    Thanks @GemJane it's nice to know I'm not the only one in sleep hell, and it's helping others too by venting here. I'm angry at myself as I knew this would happen, (I mean, I hoped I would have a good sleeper this time around but it was ok if she wasn't as it gets better eventually) tried to mentally prepare myself for the tough months, don't let it ruin this time for me, it's not my fault, no googling etcetera it'll all turn out ok....
    But sleep deprivation really messes with your head.

    We will look back on this one day fondly I'm sure

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    I was talking to another mum at the library today, she has two little ones who are roughly the same age.... She said "aren't kids great! If I win a million dollars I'd have 10 more!" And I was thinking God no, your kids must be easy then! If I won a million I'd hire a sleep consultant, a nanny and a cleaner 😂
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    I was talking to another mum at the library today, she has two little ones who are roughly the same age.... She said "aren't kids great! If I win a million dollars I'd have 10 more!" And I was thinking God no, your kids must be easy then! If I won a million I'd hire a sleep consultant, a nanny and a cleaner 😂
    I cringe when I think back on it but that was me after DS1! He was such a breeze and I naturally assumed it was all down to my incredible parenting skills cough cough then DS2 came along and blew that thought right out of the water 😂

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    I was talking to another mum at the library today, she has two little ones who are roughly the same age.... She said "aren't kids great! If I win a million dollars I'd have 10 more!" And I was thinking God no, your kids must be easy then! If I won a million I'd hire a sleep consultant, a nanny and a cleaner 😂
    What drugs was she on??? I want some!!
    Look if a mum is really loving her parenting journey, that's awesome and I'm so happy for her. But I think a lot of the time mums feel they need to pretend they love every second of it so they appear to have it all together. Which is not only exhausting for the person but it isolates other mums and makes them think there's something wrong with them. Anyway that's my rant. I also want to punch pre-mother-me as I was such an idiot and thought I knew everything! Haha!
    Fingers crossed for even a three hour stretch in there tonight xx
    Ps - yes sleep deprivation does make you loopy. I have for all intents and purposes lost the plot I think!

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    I've got four children and I haven't enjoyed the difficult baby sleep stage with any of them but my first three were sleeping through well and truly by now after getting a solid routine in place, this baby was sent to remind me I CANNOT do this again!!

    Weve reached a new low, he is now waking and not wanting to feed back to sleep OMFG so now I am up trying to rock, give a dummy, bounce, pat whatever I can to get him back to sleep. I let him attempt to self settle (he does through the day just as of this past week, wrapped up and lie him in the cot and he goes off without a peep!) and he started wailing and in that two minutes I had a three year old and five year old appear in his room wanting to know what was wrong so then I had to get three of them back to bed FML and DH is away for the week, I could cry. Sorry for the vent hijack!!

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    Big hugs @MrsIsMe! They always seem to be at their worst when there is nobody to help! My DH is away too, I am so jealous of him right now, I have not had a night away from the kidlets, ever. That's 3 years of broken nights and no sleep ins. He is going to return home to find our house a cesspit lol. Are you returning to that day settling course or has that finished?

    As he wouldn't resettle with boob is it possible he could of had pain or something?
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    Im having this really frustrating thing at the moment where I can't let down quickly. I think he is really frustrated. Or perhaps he just isn't hungry?? I don't know, he's gone from having both boobs through the day to only having one most times. Babies do my head in!

    i hear you on the husband thing, I've only ever gone to hospital to have the next baby otherwise it's been seven years and not a single night

    course ser is finished and he is self settling in the day and going through the 40 min sleep cycle most of the time now. He will not self settle at night though at all. Sleep sucks.

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    Auto correct got me! LOL my iPad also doesn't always put a capital letter to start, very annoying to look at!

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    My biggest fear is that this current belly bub will be a baby that when he wakes during the night, I won't be able to figure out what is wrong and there will be tears, from both of us. Ds1 woke HEAPS to feed but you literally fed him and straight back to sleep (very efficient feeder as well). There were never tears or moments of trying to figure out what was wrong and rocking a screaming child in the middle of the night. If this baby is like that I fear I will well and truly loose the plot. Being exhausted is hard enough but I know loads of crying will push me over the edge.

    Mrs, a slow let down could be the issue, that's he's just getting frustrated and then gets himself too upset to actually chill out and feed? And then because he's tired/upset/hungry the whole night just goes to **** in a snowball effect. How old is he again?

    I haven't had a night away either whereas DH had 8 weeks last year with no wife and baby around!!! 8 weeks! Four of those with no work as well, 2 of those as a proper holiday. (2 weeks back to OZ for a close friend's wedding--my stupid idea-never again, 2 weeks after our family trip to OZ as I stayed in Melbourne longer with DS and he flew back to work, 2 weeks back to OZ again when his dad died--obviously no choice there and I shouldn't really count it, and 2 weeks when i took DS to visit my family in the states). Seriously. I do sleep in every morning, he takes DS the 30-60 mins he wakes before he leaves for work and he takes him weekend mornings. I know that's a bit mean of me, that he never gets a 'sleep in' but before I was pregnant I was dealing with Ds' wakings and he was getting a full night's sleep, then I had insomnia and now I have pregnancy insomnia. He literally falls asleep the moment his head hits the pillow and wakes 7-8 hours later whereas whether it's DS waking or me just not being able to sleep I haven't had a night where I've had more than 3 hours unbroken and then lately up for 1-2 hours as well, so it's hard for me to feel bad for him wanting a sleep in. I genuinely need that time to feel remotely human or just to myself.

    I've been thinking of booking 1-2 nights away at a spa completely by myself before the baby comes. DH booked a family friendly one for me for Christmas but we cancelled it as I don't think having DS with us will be very relaxing for me! So he said I could go on my own, take a friend. I don't even want to take a friend! The idea of checking into a hotel by myself, having a couple treatments, ordering room service and not talking to or worrying about anyone sounds like bliss right now!

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