I'm good Luv. Getting there slowly but surely😊 I'll be keeping my eye out for your update!!!😊
Three year ago when I was 37 after our 6th unsuccessful attempt with OE (14 eggs at pick up, none to Tx) despite being in wazzas kitchen sink protocol, we too were faced with hearing the same things from Wazza.
Cheap clinic or DE. It was hard to hear and contemplate.
However after a night of pizza, wine and contemplation I realised that what I wanted most was to see my husband become a father. (I had actually resigned myself prior that motherhood was probably not something I would get because of my endo dx)
For me it didn't matter how that happened. I also knew if we adopted we would have absolutely no control over things like genetics/appearance etc but would love that child just the same regardless. Once that 'lightbulb' went in my head I realised overseas DE wasn't such an out there consideration.
(Overseas was our preference after looking at all the options as I do not have any female relatives or friends that could help)
Warren was also a great reassurance that he would assist wherever he could. And he did that and more.
Once the decision was made it pretty much snowballed and everything happened very quickly.
We were cycling again within three months. Unfortunately that first cycle didn't give us our longed for BFP but we were reminded by Wazza that our issues were big but with the right donor these could be overcome.
We then took stock and did a repeat cycle with a new donor 9 months later. This cycle turned out to be 'the one'. So much so that we are now sitting here with 6 month old twins who are our world.
I don't want to lie and say it wasn't still was a hard slog. There were times where we wondered if we were crazy. Times where I grieved the loss of my using eggs but once those babies were here, they were and are 100% ours.
It's also ironic that I regularly get told how much one or both of the babies are like me or one of my family. So clearly epigenetics is a real thing.
I'm telling you this not to convince you to go down the DE route, only you can decide if you are ready for that. But I think it's important to know what the options are and to give you hope in those options.
Sending big hugs to you today and wishing you a great outcome for your scan today. I truly do hope you get to use your own eggs but know the world won't end if you don't xx
Thanks Blinky for your insight it means a lot to hear from someone who's been there (or here, i guess) and Heyside for your kind words.
I now have 4 follicles this morning. Trigger tonight. EPU Wednesday.
We walked into this cycle giving it all we had and we have decided to continue and see what happens after egg collection.
Hi ladies- I'm on my fourth back to back FET cycle with Warren and just wanted to add that even though I'm not very active posting here- I really appreciate all of your posts and find it so incredibly useful, informative and reassuring hearing what everyone else is going through and knowing that there are others in similar situations. I've been checking in with the feed a lot more over the last two cycles and found it helps with the emotional stress of it all a lot. Big hugs to you all xx
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